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By Anonymous August 4, 2009 - 6:06pm
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Hi everyone.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year, and we started having sex a while ago. He is my first sexual partner, and before him I must admit I never thought much about it, leaving me inexperienced on a mental/knowledge level as well as on the physical one.
I have no doubt that he finds me very attractive and he wants me very much, regardless of my inexperience.
However he keeps saying he wants to try new things, kinky freaky things too. This doesn't bother me, the problem is that he won't tell me what they are, because he's convinced that it will creep me out, and there's nothing I can say or do to make him believe otherwise, except come up with something on my own.

Now I never paid much attention to this stuff, so I know nothing about it... even just small things and tiny turn ons, I have to learn as I go along. Ironically enough google hasn't been much help...
So I was wondering if any of you have some ideas of things we could try inside and out of the bedroom. Not necessarily crazy kinky stuff, but also "normal, everyday" sexy things that I/we might find enjoyable? Thank you for your help, it is very much appreciated.

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Hi, Christine:

What bothers me about your story is that you're not communicating with your partner and simply leaving things up to him. Frankly, that creeps me out because I would never want to feel manipulated by my partner.

A book that has been around for decades is, "The Joy of Sex." Regardless how archaic some folks might think it is, the whole point of the book is to get BOTH partners engaged, and to teach you how to be lovingly adventurous in a safe, non-threatening manner.

August 5, 2009 - 5:28pm
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