I am in a very loving relationship for 13 years now, we dont have any children and still in our 30's. I think I avoid sex most of the time. When I was growing up my family were very strict and ive always felt sexually repressed and not that confident, but have managed to overcome that in most situations and have and still do enjoy sex......
Now as I get older I feel more and more that sex is dirty? (I know!!!) im put off by it, avoid it, cant seem to talk to my partner about it... but when we do have sex it is amazing, we dirty talk etc...but I seem to want it to end as soon as possible?? I am so uptight!
Its damaging my relationship with my partner, as he now feels he has lost confidence and feels he's still young and that he wants to enjoy and experiment with me, but I keep brushing him away. He says he cant take the relationship for much longer plus he thinks I am bossy and controlling,(which is true I guess) he says he loves me very much and doesnt know what to do.
I don't know what to do to change - the thought of not being with him after 13 years will be unbearable, you see we are very close in other ways and have built a great life together.
I need to know there are other ways to be helped, yes I know I can get out the sexy underwear, but I feel my problem is more deeply routed and feel its getting worse.
Other related issues: I have possible polycystic ovaries, I have had a scan and need to see my doctor in the week. I don't fantasize about my partner, but tend to about other women, which is also worrying me, as I know I dont want to be in a relationship with a woman.
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