Ok, so by the question above your probaley thinking what's wrong with him talking to other women. No i am not a control freak. Here is there situation, We have been together for 6 years and around year 4 i had seen a very shall we say "private" picture on his phone while i was going on to send myself some pics from a recent party we had attendend. When i confronted or asked him about it it came to light that him and this girl had been texting each other very intimate text to one another as far as i know and from what he says thats all it was nothing actually physical (oh and for a added bonus we all worked together so they were doing this for a few months behind my back) anyways i got over it and we said we were going to mend the realtionship because we love each other. I figured what we had was worth fighting for . For the next two years we are fine both got better jobs , moved into a better place things were going great. Well about 3 days ago it came to light that he was talking on the phone with another girl who works for the same company but not in the same location as him, they had been talking for about 2 months.i asked him about it and he came clean saying that they had met at a work banquet talking about work and he gave her his number, and that it was just a friendship thing that they talked about work and she had a boyfriend .( Keep in mind i am 23 he is 25 and this new girl is 19.She lives at home with her parents ) So i asked if it was innocent and just a work thing why did he hide it ie: delete all the call history text msgs etc. He said that he wanted to prevent a fight which i think is whatever. So im finally getting to the reason im writting this sorry that it so long. So my first reaction was anger then just sadness and betrayl. So we talk about it , i do believe that she was jus innocent talking and flirting but it could had lead to more like the first girl had he not got caught i believe. I asked him why he keeps talking to other females what is missing at home that he feels the need to go else were and at first he said he thinks he is just scared of commitment since we have been together so long and are so young. After more talking and more of me repeatly asking what else he said that he is not as attracted to me as he was when we first started seeing each other because i had gained weight.That was like a knife through my heart as i have always been a bigger girl and therefore very self councius of my weight, but i understood it . I mean it isnt his fault how he feels on a physical level is it ? We talked more about what he didnt like about me and although very hard to hear i wanted him to be honest .(or so i though i wanted him to be)So i guess my question is should i give him another chance and try and rebuild the trust, and will we ever be the same after knowing how he feels about me.And i also should add that i have been working on losing weight for about a month.But ever since he said that i wont let him touch me or be in the same room when i change and i dont feel comfortable eating around him not that i have been anyways since he said he wasnt attracted to me.i just cant bring myself to eat. i feel as though i gross him out. What is a way to cope with this ? Has anyone ever been in a simaliar situation?
thank you for reading this very long thread and thanks in advance for any advice.
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