I'm not really sure if I did this right... so sorry, if this is in the wrong spot...
History on boyfriend; He's 25, he's never been in any serious relationships, or in a relationship for more than a year, other than me(not that he is serious with me, but I'm the most serious he has ever had, we have been together 2 years 5 months approx.) His father was abusive to his entire family and left in his teen years. His mother since the father left has been aggressive and paranoid. He is what I would call.... depressed, and easily angered, very small petty things get him screaming and hitting walls. In the last year he hasn't worked since being fired from the job we met at, he stays in his room and all he wants to do is go online, watch movies and play video games. He sleeps 12 + hours a day, and his sleep schedule ranges from (going to bed at 4am-8am) to (waking up at 4pm-6pm) . Another He will often have mean streaks for weeks, and until I break down crying from the abuse or neglect he will not own up or say he is sorry. He also is very vain, or obsessed with how he looks, he finds himself very ugly, but this is how he feels and how he feels alone, he will spend hours in the bathroom trying to clean his face... it's pretty obsessive. I always am telling him how sexy he is, ect... ect... nothing I say to him changes his mind though. I'm giving all the support I can.
We met at a mutual job. About a month into knowing each other, we started sleeping together, which led to sex(obviously). After about 3 weeks into having sex maybe 2 times a week each he complained that he felt we have sex all the time, after he said that, I guess my confidence in asking for it and initiating it went way way down, clearly, he does not want sex as much as I do, and I wasn't about to have sex with someone who didn't want it but was doing so because he felt he should, so I stopped asking for sex, and trying to get it... ever since... we will go months, usually 1-3 not having any sex until I feel like I'm going to go nuts and bug him and bug him. Even after bugging, he lets me lead the entire thing, he just lays there... I do all the work, I give the oral, I give the kissing and touching, he doesn't touch me, he has never given me oral, he doesn't even touch my breasts, unless he's joking around about it.
I guess I just want to know, how to get him to start having sex with me, I have a very high libido, I need to be with someone who can fulfill that, but I love this man and want to give him the best chance I can. If you do think it's depression causing these problems, I want to know how I can help him. I have already tried talking to him about if he may have depression, he is like a wall, and will not talk about it. Or should I remove myself from this situation entirely and try to get on with life? I know these topics aren't fully related, I hope this wasn't to confusing to read.
I know he likes woman, I don't think he is gay.
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