Facebook Pixel

Solid to Sour

By January 10, 2012 - 8:48pm
Rate This

My boyfriend and I have known each other for five years, we became best friends at work, then last year, we started dating. We our very first year long distance which was hard, but we made it. This year, I moved in with him. Some might say it was too soon but we spent every waking minute with each other anyways, and it was great.
When we first moved in, he was all about sex, and our relationship was very strong and a lot of fun.
Now, he watches TV and plays video games, and he never has any interest in it.

At first I was alright with it, but then I found out he was watching porn all those days he wasn't having intercourse with me.
I understand that masturbation is healthy, but I shouldn't take a backseat to it, right?
We recently got into an argument about how he never has any interest in it with me, he said that in the morning and night time he was too tired, and during the day he didn't ever feel like it... but I happen to know that his porn viewing happened in the afternoon while I was in my classes. I asked why he was in the mood for that in the afternoon but not in the mood for me when I was home most of the day, he replied "It's easier. I don't have to buy condoms or roll-around and get all sweaty and tired."
I have no clue what to do. I've bought lingerie, games, I've started taking better care of myself in case it's me somehow, I walk around in my underwear, I have to beg him to shower with me...
He's a great guy and I love him, but the sex is non-exsistant... all because it's too much work with me and porn isn't?
Please help, I don't want to fight about this with him anymore. But I'm at a loss.

Add a Comment1 Comments

EmpowHER Guest

Hi Amy91,

Welcome to EmpowHER.  Sorry to hear this.  Am sure it's not easy. It might be good to talk to your boyfriend and let him know how you feel and what it is doing to the relationship.  Alot of things can play a factor including his age, if you know he isn't cheating on you or a low libido.  It might be good to see a doctor and he can guide you as to what might be the problem or even suggest therapy.



January 11, 2012 - 5:06am
Enter the characters shown in the image.
By submitting this form, you agree to EmpowHER's terms of service and privacy policy
Add a Comment

All user-generated information on this site is the opinion of its author only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions. Members and guests are responsible for their own posts and the potential consequences of those posts detailed in our Terms of Service.

Sex & Relationships

Get Email Updates

Resource Centers

Sex & Relationships Guide

HERWriter Guide

Have a question? We're here to help. Ask the Community.


Health Newsletter

Receive the latest and greatest in women's health and wellness from EmpowHER - for free!