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IF HE STARTS MAKING SERIOUS MONEY, BIG GIRLS CAN FORGET ABOUT KEEPING THEIR BOYFRIEND. (Unless, you IMMEDIATELY start losing the weight.)
Money makes you more attractive to women, and if he's making serious bank, A CROWD of slim women will begin to proposition him - whereas before, he only had you as an option.
Monied men don't keep large women. It goes against the social idea of "the spoils of war." If you're a winner, how is the big girl the prize? Super-skinny isn't a prize either, because she's CONSTANTLY questioned about her crack use!
Don't complain, this is Western European socialization - and if you're Western European or Western European American, this is all your people's fault.

I'm in 9th grade. I'm 15 years old. And to be honest, everyday the girls I go to school with hear this. But it's very few of them who knows that they are who they are. That they should be proud of what they are, expecialy when they worked for it. You lost A LOT of weight. So fine someone who's just as proud of you, as you are of yourself. What's the point of spending all your time changing yourself. When your fine with yourself. You guys should be building off each other, but trying to change one another. (well he is.) Is he trying to change you for his family, friends, or for himself? Either answer isn't right. You should only change for yourself. For better, not for worst.

I think it's very wonderful to have accomplished your weight loss. Congrats to you. Unfortunately, when a man has a problem with the woman in his life because of things he wishes to control like her weight, hair, how she dresses, it never stops there. You can get to your ideal weight, say 120-135 lbs. and he may seem satisfied at first. It won't take long before he finds some other fault because people like that are never happy for long because they have a need to point out what they find as flaws. Not to be cold, but the quickest way to lose weight, is to let him go. You might find that you won't be stressed and lose the rest of weight you want to lose.
I'm not thin either, but I know how stupid men can act when I am thin, and I'm not now but I'm beautiful and sexy and smart, independent and I have a high esteem for myself. I rather be alone and happy with myself than to be with a controlling, selfish, jerk. I live to be healthy, and when I get all my weight off, I will do it for myself in my own way, in my own time.
Please don't stay involved with him if you feel like he is disrespectful of you because it seems like he is. There are many good men who will love you as is. You're not chopped liver and you should not settle for anything less. Remember, the only time you are truly alone is when you don't have God or your Highest Power you believe in. Surround yourself with people who respect and truly love you. Don't waste your time with people, even friends or family who don't have your best interests at heart. They would be frenemies.
Loving yourself and not settling opens different kinds of doors. You will find your rightful love when you let go of your unhealthy relationship because you will be free to find the right one. If you set him free, take a little time to collect yourself. Since he is a long distance relationship, it may be easier than you think. You will see what I mean. If you haven't done so, get a makeover and hair do, and move on! Sounds like you want a everyday relationship with someone who is more available to you. You need to become more available yourself. Good Luck and God Bless You and Yours.

Dear DWI0307,

I can understand where he is coming from but if this is a healthy weight for you, then be proud. There's no shame in any weight as long as it is healthy for you and what you have done is a great accomplishment. The "honesty" could be what he thinks is perfection now because of his "people pleasing" personality. Perfection changes as people grow and evolve, and maybe when he's better he won't care about it or the way either of you will be viewed.

You are beautiful for who you are and that you care and have so much love to give. Don't let this get you down.

Best,
Anonymouse