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Tips For Battling Low Self Esteem?

By September 23, 2010 - 9:49am
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I was just wondering if people could give me tips and tricks of battling self esteem issues? I've read random things online on 'we think this way, so do this...' I don't know, to me it just feels like faceless info in an article... I wanted to see if I could get more personal feedback on maybe things people personally do to stop the little voice in your head when it's thinking of negative stuff, haha

I'm 21 and have low esteem - I am, of course, overweight and it probably stems from that and bullying I endured in high school. I'm in my third year of a course at university and only now accepting some traits in myself... But I still have a lot of trouble viewing myself as worth of anything - I dress and get called 'cute' a few times laterly, yet I just can't bring myself to accept people's compliments... I worry a lot on what others think or how I look at the time. For example I have a lot of trouble with photos - someone has a camera my brain automatically thinks I'm going to look horrible in the next shot and I'll then tense up and end up just not looking natural in anything.

I would just like advice I getting your self to stop beating your self up haha.

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Hi Silver,
What an interesting question! I am wondering if you are battling self-esteem problems (as we all do, on a continuum of mild to severe), or if you are specifically trying to overcome body image issues? Your description sounded much more related to body image, and I have some helpful resources for you if your concern is more specific in this area (it also includes general self-esteem).

hope to hear from you soon!

September 23, 2010 - 1:21pm
(reply to Alison Beaver)

It's a bit of both actually... But yeah the body image is def issue for me. Any resources would be helpful, thank you =)

September 24, 2010 - 6:12am
(reply to Silver)

The resources that I found most empowering and insightful (to understand the cause of low self-esteem, and to know you are not alone) are Jean Kilbourne's Killing Us Softly videos. Many University libraries carry these DVDs, or you can view previews of them from her website. They are truly eye-opening as to the power of media on our body image.

Other great resources:
- This is my favorite book: Nathaniel Branden: Six Pillars of Self Esteem

- Livestrong: Self Esteem

- Something Fishy: Self Esteem and Eating Disorders (prevention)

- Teen Health: Self Esteem (might be a little young for you, but still good information regardless of age)

Please let me know if any of these are helpful!

September 26, 2010 - 6:59pm
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