virginity

you're welcome. And I'm not a sex therapist, but I'm guessing that the reason you get aroused is because you are human. You may even care for the person you are being intimate with. It's completely natural to feel desire, and arousal. It's nothing to be ashamed of regardless if you are prepared to have sex or not.
Again, good luck and let us know if you have any more questions.

tank u.

Hi Sexy,
Cary's right. If you're not ready for whatever reason, you're not ready. It has to be right for you. You will remember your first time for the rest of your life, so it's OK to make sure it's something you will want to remember. Take your time and when it happens you won't regret it. Any man has to respect your decision, or he's not worth your time. Here is an article that may interest you:
https://www.empowher.com/sexual-well-being/content/am-i-ready-have-sex-ten-things-need-be-true-0
If you do decide to have sex, make sure you are protected from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases:
https://www.empowher.com/pregnancy/content/which-birth-control-most-effective
Good luck and let us know how you're doing.

Hello Sexy

I'm sure you know the answer to this better than anyone else. What are you afraid of? What have you been taught about losing your virginity? Every culture and family has different ideas about it, and I'm guessing yours tells you to wait as long as possible before having sex.

Sex is a big deal. Society doesn't always treat it that way, but it is. If you have doubts, take time to think about why that is. Maybe it's the wrong time or the wrong man, maybe you need to use protection, maybe you just aren't ready.

It's your body, and your sex life. If you are not ready, don't force it. Be in control of what you want, and you will feel better about yourself. Good luck to you.