ask: well this is very important for me and embarrassing...i masturbated but i did not enter anything in my virgina..i feel like my virgina has changed from the outside..as iam a muslim and its very important for me to be a virgin until my wedding night w

Myself,

Welcome to Empowher, and thanks so much for your question. I'm glad you found us.

Please don't worry. Your vagina would not change from the outside from masturbation. The only thing that physically signifies whether a woman is a virgin or not is whether her hymen is intact, and that is inside.

Have you noticed anything specifically different, or are you just feeling worried in general?

The hymen being broken or not is not an indicator of if you are or are not a virgin. Active women or girls can break their hymen through sports and other active things as such. If you have not engaged in sexual intercourse you are a virgin. That is that. Masturbation is natural and will not make you not a virgin.

You people actually not understanding her problem...she is not interested in where what lies and is found...she wants to know, what she would do if in case her hymen has broken and not going to bleed first night.? So is there any way to escape that...am i right?

Well i suggest you....hymenoplasty surgery(a minor one--contact a dermatologist or a cosmetic surgeon) remember the cost is neither too high and not even too low...but you must contact to know more about it..doctors keep privacy

If not possible then better you... act as feeling intense pain duing first intercourse and move to hide so that he doesnt gets a chance to see if bleeding or not....

And if that also not possible then follow the path of truth....tell everything...of course you can manipulate little...
Hope this helps you a lot

Hi All!

Bleeding during first ever intercourse, is not always to be expected. These are falsities, used to enforce virginity until marriage. I didn't bleed, nor did anything hurt!

There are many plastic surgeons who do "restore" the hymen but it could be broken again just by riding a bike. The notion that a hymen or bleeding during sex for the first time means a woman is a virgin is just wrong but I do understand that many people/cultures believe it to be true.

To "Myself", if you truly believe that you'll be injured or killed if people think you are not a virgin, then you need help. Where do you live? There are human rights organizations all over the world that you can contact. You don't have to give us your name, just your country. Or send a personal message if you prefer.

And you can also have your hymen restored - doctors do it all the time, for women in cultures that believe it to be important.

It may also be the case that your hymen is still in tact, but you are more aware of your body now, because you masturbate. The more familiar you become, the more aware you are of all your parts! So in the beginning, you may have thought one thing about your genital area, and now you think differently, simply because you are more knowledgeable.

i thank u all u r helping me alot..it is just that when i saw the change in my vigina whcih like i said it has gone wide which is like the picture that u have on the link..but it did not used to be like that..it was very tight..and this is why im me very scared..it used to be closed u know very small that i could not be opend wide like it is now..also what i dont get is in some places it says the hymen is inside the virgina where it might not break even if a finger is entered and in some places it says it is just outside the virgina????? i keep thinking it has broken that is why it is not tight anymore??..we have docters here who do these things..but it is too complicated and to be honest i sometimes believe that my hymen has not broken but what stops me is like i said the changes that has happend to my virgina..
but thank u all for ur help..u really are helping me..

so u saying that it can be seen from the outside if ur hymen is broken or not...im sorry but im really confused....