I had a total hysterectomy over ten years ago. I am now in my mid 50's and find it very disturbing that I have completely lost interest in sex. My soon to be husband - who is approaching 60, has no trouble getting and maintaining an erection. He would like to make love to me fairly frequently - about once a week. Me - I would rather be knitting a sweater! I do not get aroused even when he touches me in my erogenous areas. When we do have sex, it burns, hurts and is totally uncomfortable. I have tried using gels to help the problem - but they are not very effective and actually interfere with love making. My fiancee is very kind to me and will not push me to have sex with him - but I know he is quite frustrated and I have caught him masturbating when he thinks I am still sleeping. I feel very badly about the whole thing. I want to be spontaneous and enjoy sex the way I used to and be able to satisfy my man.
I am hoping you can give me some advice and direction as to what to do about this problem.
Thanks for your reply.
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