Im 33 and he is 32...living together for a year and a half now first 6 months sex was not bad we did it at least 3 times or more a week. After that once a week and then once every two weeks now its up to a month and no sex. For the last 6 months plus i have only initiated the sex except for one time maybe. My bf does not work but he didnt work when i met him. He has on and off jobs in construction through his family. He smokes weed every night. I just completed a school program and am busy now with my extership in a hosptial. We both gained a little weight. I gained 10lbs and he gained a little more. I know he goes on internet porn. But he doesnt know that I know..he may suspect i know. I confronted him a while ago about us not having a normal sex life befoe and nothing changed. I confronted him today again.because i now myself last week have just started going on the web to talk with and see men and I feel guilty...but im just lonely and dont feel any sexual attention from him anymore at all. I asked him if it was the weed smoking and he said that its not becouase of smoking weed and said that he is not horny before he smokes so wont be horny after. He said maybe hes libido has slowed down but maybe the reason he doesnt want to is because I always force it on him.. or because i always want him to perform oral sex on me... or because we both gained a lot of weight...(we havent gained that much weight) or maybe because we're always on top of eachother and never get any time apart so we don't miss eachother. Meanwhile.. I went away for 4 days to texas to see family and he didnt come so that is time apart and when i came back we didnt have sex that night. A week later He went skiing for acouple days with his friend.. so that was more healthy time apart. So I just dont know what he means by that.. we live together so we are obviously going to be on top of eachother. He asked me if i would have wanted him to have sex with me even though he wasnt in the mood and didnt want to. He said he doesnt want it to feel like its a chore.. But that he would like the desire for hime to want me like that again to come back too...but not sure what to do.. He did tell me he loves me and loves our relationship together.
Please help ...any advice anyone could offer me?? So depressed over this and I know im a beautiful and sexy and sensual women and he is a good looking and sexy man.. but dont understand how he's not turned on by me anymore:( I always had to push my bfs away because they wanted it too much...this is very upsetting..what can we do or can I do??
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