I'm a 30 year old girl and was in the best relationship I've ever had, with a 26 year old guy. We were together for almost 2 years, getting along really well, when I got pregnant, unintentionally. I had ran out of birth control and told my boyfriend this, so there was nothing I was trying to hide, but I did get pregnant. It was the hardest decision I have ever made in my life. His response was, I will support whatever decision you make. Being that he is only in his first 6 months of his career, I'm in my final year of grad school, and both of us are still living in our parents house, I decided to have a termination. He was amazingly supportive during the entire process, until my final dr appointment. He choose to go to lunch with a co-worker claiming he had work, while I went to my final appointment to ensure the termination was complete, alone. This hurt me so much and I left him a message explaining this and then ignored his calls for a couple days. When we talked again he told me that what happened, the pregnancy, really scared him, that he can't see himself with me long term, and that what I did was selfish. I have never been so heartbroken in my life. I explained to him that I was scared as well, that the reason I had the termination was because I was not ready for such a serious relationship, and that it seemed unfair to bring a child into the world completely unprepared. I told him that we could get through this, that I understand that he is scared and that I would be willing to give him time apart but to please not just quit on us. Additionally, he was supposed to be meeting my parents that night. Yet, he still ended the realtionship and told me that he wanted to see other girls. When I attempted to contact him the next day to return his items that were at my house, he ignored me, said that he would try to come by to get his things, and never did. I decided to try and not contact him anymore. Also, he has only had one relationship prior to me and the girl ended things with him about 9 months into the relationship because of his inability to communicate. So I know he hasn't had much realtionship experience. So three weeks after I stopped communication, he attempted calling me. I didn't respond. A week later I sent him a text saying happy new years, 2010 was one of my best and it wouldn't have been the same without you. He wrote me back the next morning saying:
Subject: happy new year!!!!!!
I'm sure you had a great new year. I tried calling you during christmas time and your phone went to voicemail. I think you might be out of town? I got a text from you. Thank you. Happy new year! I was thinking about you too. 2010 was one of my best years also. 2009 sucked and 2010 was waayy better. thanks for being there by my side. I loved sharing 2010 with you. I miss you. Hope you're having a great time. take care.
Please tell me what to do, I don't know what his attempts to contact me truly mean. I don't want to be heartbroken again, but I would do anything to be back with him. Thank you for reading all of this and I truly appreciate your thoughts!!!!!
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