Everytime I am having sex I always seem to be very wet, and sometimes wet through my panties. However, I met this new guy, really great!! I like him a lot and we stepped into that next level of having sex with each other. I did get an orgasm and it was enjoyable, but I was not wet and it eventually started to hurt mainly from dry skin rubbing against dry skin. Does this mean that I am not attracted to him? Is there a problem? Is there a way to fix this?
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With woman sex and relationships are all about psychological and emotional needs. For men things are largely physically based, especially when it's about sex.
If she doesn't become "ready" physically, then she probably isn't being satisfied emotionally. More proper foreplay could help in those moments, you're never going to get anywhere just by going right for it. It's like a rollercoaster, you have to wait in line and take your time getting to the front before you can really have your turn. But it also may require even more than that extra intimacy, you may have to show her more true commitment that is NOT related to sex. In other words spending extra time on foreplay only shows you're spending your extra effort on sex, when she wants to see you spending extra time on other things just because you care. By doing things that aren't really going to get you laid you will get laid. You might think buying flowers and cleaning the house has nothing to do with getting laid but it's exactly those things that will get you laid.
November 25, 2012 - 11:38pmThis Comment
Being wet for a female is normal when shes horny and ready to have sex. If you aren't able to get her wet then don't try to penetrate her vagina or it can cause pain. In a worst case scenario you could always use a lube:
I would recommend using something that lubricates and increases sensation, because if it increases sensation it will make her more wet naturally. Get what I mean?? If your girlfriend has problems getting wet you should also take your time and do more foreplay, dont rush the moment ! make it happen au naturelle :) xox <3
-Natasha
March 28, 2013 - 8:32pmHello Anonymous,
The wetness that you are experiencing is vaginal lubrication. It is a lubricating fluid that is naturally produced in your vagina. This moistness is always present, but production increases significantly during sexual arousal and in anticipation of sexual intercourse.
It is normal.
Maryann
August 30, 2012 - 4:28pmIve been having sex with my boyfriend for sometime now and i always get wet , really wet is that normal? Also even when i am not sexually active i get wet and i dnt feel active or anything i just get wet is that normal?
August 29, 2012 - 8:28pmHello Anonymous,
The vaginal wetness that you experienced is a sign of sexual arousal and stimulation. It is a physical sign that your body is aroused.
It is not a sign that you are emotionally mature enough to be sexually active.
Think about this...once you start menstruating, your body is physically ready to have a baby. When did you start menstruating?
Were you or are you emotionally ready to be a mother?
Maryann
August 15, 2012 - 4:50pmI'm a 16 year old girl, im a virgin aswell. Recently ive been going out with this guy ive known ages and ive been with him 3 months now. whenever we are together like when he makes out with me and touches me i get really wet like i havent that much before! i also feel alot more comfortable with him and trust him alot!
August 15, 2012 - 9:02am1. Does gettin wet mean they turn you on, and are attracted to them?
2. Is it a sign you're ready to have sex with them?
Thanks!:)
Hi Anonymous,
Any time you have unprotected sex there is a chance that you could become pregnant. The chance of getting pregnant increases if you have unprotected sex when you are ovulating. Ovulation is when one of your ovaries releases an egg. This usually happens about 2 weeks before your period starts.
For now, you need to wait and see if you get your period. If you are late by one week or more, you need to take a home pregnancy test.
As a nurse and mother of three children ( my youngest child is 16 years old ), I must tell you how important it is to be certain that you feel emotionally ready to be sexually active. You are young. If you feel that you are ready and are not being pressured to have sex, then you must use some form of birth control.
You need to be aware of the risk of contracting STDs. Have you been vaccinated against HPV? Please think about what you are doing and be safe.
Maryann
March 28, 2012 - 6:01pmI meant 3_16_12 & 3_24_12
March 28, 2012 - 5:21pmHi im 15 yrs old and I have a bf we been togeather for almost 8 months we had unprotected sex 2 times one on 3_16_12 & 3_21_12 im really scared that I might be pregnant can someone please help me ¿??
March 28, 2012 - 5:18pmI think you know. I would guess that something just wasn't right. Either nerves, technique, or something else. Our society want to make excuses for women who dry up in all reality it is no different than men who lose their erections. The only person who can tell you why you were not is you. Don't settle for sexual lube, do some soul searching and discover why. It is simple if you must use lube then something is not ticking, many women wish to use it so they can think about doing the laundry during sex and that way the guy never knows
November 30, 2011 - 4:01pm