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will it hurt just the same as if it is your first time?
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I have been with the love of my life for a couple of months and last night we tryed to have sex but he couldnt get hard.... I know he hasnt been with a woman in over 7 years physically or relationship wise...could this be the cause of him not being about to get an erection while seeing me naked or attempting foreplay??
February 8, 2013 - 12:27pmThis Comment
i was with a man for 9 years with no sex and now with a new man want to have sex but i just don't feel it any more how can i get this back
August 30, 2013 - 9:48pmThis Comment
I have just hooked up with an old friend, she hasnt had sex in 10 years as her ex had his prostrate removed. She also had a hysterectomy. She said she no longer had any interest in sex. After speaking with me and a little dirty talk, I have created a monster. She gets soaking wet and wants to have sex all the time. Its possible some arent with the right person
July 8, 2017 - 4:54pmThis Comment
If you haven't had sex for 30 years, I'm happy to say that it makes you ..... in charge of your body! Your body, your choice. I didn't have sex for one year after my husband died (after cheating me out of all my money) and now I can have sex whenever I want. The bad news is that you have to be very careful of who you choose - partners don't come with health cards. I had sex with a couple of men and now have settled down with just one of them. We have sex between 3 times a day to 3 times a week. It's our bodies, our choice. Just enjoy life and be safe whether you have sex or not!
June 22, 2011 - 2:11pmThis Comment
i haven t havent sex for 30 years what does that make me
June 20, 2011 - 7:54amThis Comment
A virgin is someone who has never had sex, usually defined by penile-to-vaginal penetration.
By this definition, once someone has had sex and are, therefore, not a virgin...and then they wait to have sex for 5 days, 5 years or 5 decades...they are still not a virgin.
Sex does not have to hurt or be painful, as enough foreplay, gentle penetration and self-lubrication (or store-bought lubrication) can prevent pain.
Do you have any specific questions about what you are going through (instead of hypothetical situations?). Is this question describing yourself--are you thinking about having sex again after 5 years, and want to know what to do, what to prepare for?
December 28, 2010 - 12:48pmThis Comment
I was just thinking what if someone were to abstain from sex for 5 years will it hurt just the same as if it is her first time when she have sex again?
December 28, 2010 - 11:48pmThis Comment
As I said above, sex does not have to be painful. Some women experience pain or discomfort the first time they have sex; others do not. Same with women who remain abstinent for a long period of time. It really depends on so many factors:
- Foreplay. Are you and your partner touching your vagina, inserting fingers (that help prepare the opening for penile penetration).
December 30, 2010 - 10:04am- Lubrication. Are you adequately self lubricating? You may choose to purchase some lubrication that can help with any discomfort.
- Penis size. If your male partner's penis is on the large size, you may have more discomfort then if his penis was smaller.
- Type of sex. If you experience discomfort, you can try new positions, go slower, and add more foreplay.
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