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By November 12, 2009 - 5:16am
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I am 30 something years old now. I have always had heavy (at least 3 days of heavy bleeding) and longer periods. Now they last 5 days and only half of a day of heavy bleeding. This started 6 months ago after having sex with my husband. I watched a tv show where women bled monthly & then were surprised later with a baby. They did not gain a lot of weight during this particular pregnancy, and the babies all came out normal and healthy. Their pregnancy tests showed negative (the ones who tested themselves). Could this have happened to me. Could the baby be implanted on the front of my uterus and that is why I'm still bleeding monthly and why I would not feel any kicking? If the baby is not viable anymore, do they do a D&C or does the baby usually come out eventually? What can be done? Do insurances cover it and is it expensive?

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The TV show you are referring to is only meant for entertainment, and many details and truths are left out. I would not spend another minute worrying about the correlation to you and a TV show (no matter how realistic they make it sound!).

Women may experience some bleeding when they are pregnant; most do not.

Women do not have a monthly menstrual cycle with a viable pregnancy, however. If there is an implanted fertilized egg, and thus a viable pregnancy, the "pregnancy hormones" tell your body to begin the process of developing a placenta and the million-other baby-preparation steps, thus stopping any shedding of the uterine lining (menstruation). There may be medical anomalies to every situation, and the TV executives, writers and producers will certainly thrive on the insecurities in all of us watching the show to dramatize these anomalies, and influence us to wonder if these strange, unusual occurrences are instead common...and could happen to us!

Do you have any questions about your specific situation, that do not involve the TV show, that we can help answer?

November 12, 2009 - 3:04pm
(reply to Alison Beaver)

Hi Allison. Thank you for responding. I am still wondering why my periods have gotten lighter each month. I also wonder if it's going to help me to do anything about it. If it could be cancer, I don't know if I can handle knowing that or if I can handle chemotherapy. Maybe it's better that I don't know that.

November 13, 2009 - 5:28am
(reply to nina)


Please don't be so anxious about this. You said that you are in your 30s; it is very common for women's cycles to change as they become older and get into the very beginnings of perimenopause. When your cycle changes, it just signals hormonal changes in your body. Those can be due to a LOT of things, including stress, life changes, changes in your diet, level of activity or medicines.

Look back at your last several months and note any changes. Did you lose or change your job, or get a new one? Have you had any changes in medicines? Has your stress level changed (for the better or for the worse?) Are you exercising more? Eating less? Are you overweight, or losing weight? Do you have any other medical conditions?

Nina, how long has it been since you had a regular annual ob/gyn appointment for a pap smear and pelvic exam? It may be a good idea to ask your doctor about your periods getting lighter in order to figure out if perimenopause may be starting. And it IS good to know. You seem to be prone to anxiety; am I right? Have you talked to someone about your worries?

November 16, 2009 - 8:25am
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