Facebook Pixel

when do men lose thier sex drive?

By January 15, 2012 - 1:47am
Rate This

My husband and I dated for several years.. we were team drivers for a trucking company and we had alot of sex. i got out of the truck and got a job at the hospital and he continued to drive.. he is gone for 4 - 6 weeks at a time and when he comes home sometimes we do not have sex during his home time.. the sex stopped after we got married.. I had already gotten out of the truck but i have done everything like sending him naked pics and i know he is not cheating cause his paychecks would show any type of down time and i pay the bills so i have control of all our bills and paychecks.... when we do have sex everything works cause I was maybe concerned with ED... there is a big age difference i am 33 and he is 47. i have discussed this with him and he said that he is fine and everything is good. He makes the excuses that we just dont have time when he comes home and this is why we do not have sex.. last year during 12 month period we may have had sex 5 times. I feel like this is not healthy for our relationship.. If it is something medical then I would be more understanding. Since the few times we have had sex he has had working equipment I just dont understand and curious if other couples go through this.. Its not really something I want to ask my co-workers... Outside the house when we are social with our friends he is very loving and holds my hand and smacks me on the butt and stuff so no one would ever think we were having problems in the bedroom... I almost feel like i am living a lie... outside we are a couple.. inside we are just roomamates.. please help

Add a Comment1 Comments

Hi Kristy, 

Low libido in men is usually related to stress, medications, quality of your relationship, and medical conditions. Any loss of libido due to age is usually linked to erectile dysfunction, which may increase once men have reached their 50's. If you think that none of these pertain to your husband then you may want to talk with him the next time he comes home regarding the quality of your relationship. 

Best of luck,


January 15, 2012 - 9:32am
Enter the characters shown in the image.
By submitting this form, you agree to EmpowHER's terms of service and privacy policy
Add a Comment

All user-generated information on this site is the opinion of its author only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions. Members and guests are responsible for their own posts and the potential consequences of those posts detailed in our Terms of Service.

Sex & Relationships

Get Email Updates

Resource Centers

Sex & Relationships Guide

HERWriter Guide

Have a question? We're here to help. Ask the Community.


Health Newsletter

Receive the latest and greatest in women's health and wellness from EmpowHER - for free!