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When ever my boyfriend and i DO have sex, its always in the same position. Why???

By August 23, 2011 - 3:42pm
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I get that he has a preference, but after a while it gets boring. I cant remember the last time we had sex missionary. The way we always have sex makes it feel like 'JUST SEX'. It doesn't feel personal or emotional. Its doesn't feel intimate. It feels like something i would find on the internet! I'm very open when it comes to sex and i can be adventurous too. I want to try new things, exciting things! Things that some people would find freaky almost. But as long as its just us two, whats the problem?! I dont think he's comfortable with himself. its so frustrating.

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Hi Betty,
That does make it difficult. If your boyfriend feels uncomfortable taking about sex with you, I doubt he would be receptive to work with a counselor. Maybe, instead of talking about trying new things, take the initiative and just direct him to a new position. Take the lead and try those new, freaky things you fantasize about. Surprise him by doing instead of talking about it. It's worth a try!


August 24, 2011 - 4:55pm

hi maryann, i have told him and he just gets uncomfortable and doesn't want to discuss it. He always gets awkward when i try and talk to him about our sex life. I don't know why. I don't attack him, i try to be understanding. But he just doesn't like to talk bout it. I don't think he's very comfortable talking about sex.

August 23, 2011 - 7:30pm

Hi Betty,
Have you told your boyfriend what you just wrote here? This is an intimate matter which you should be working on together. Work on discovering why he is willing to experiment with new positions. Try taking a gentle seductive approach.

August 23, 2011 - 5:25pm
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