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I've been married for almost 4 yrs and ever since I met my husband, he always wanted me to loose weight. I tried but never took it too seriously Cze I didn't think my lower body looked bad especially that I always got compliments. I was 62 kilos when we got married and am 5,7 and some how I gained a bit of weigh after. Our first daughter is 4 months now and of course I need to lose some weight. I just started going back to the gym as I promised him that I'm gonna lose weight and to be honest I feel it's necessary too. The problem is that I was in peace with my self esteem and I know am good looking but I never felt pretty in my husbands eyes. He loves me and I know it but my body is becoming a huge issue that I hate myself now and I tell him to turn his face away when I take off my clothes. We haven't had a private moment for months. I also feel like I don't love him anymore.. I dunno what to do. I was always insecure about my hips and my butt and I used to always watch what I eat and count the calories even when I was pregnant. It's also very hard to lose weight for that part of the body. He's upset with me bcz he's been telling me to lose weight for the past 4 yrs, instead I gained weight. He's right but to be honest, deep down I wished that for once he would make me love myself. What shall I do?
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Hi, Anon.
Thank you for your message.
This is just my opinion, but anyone that causes you to doubt yourself or make you feel bad about the way you look when you felt/feel at peace with your looks, is not a positive force in your life. If your husband loves you, he loves all of you, as you are. As you did him. That's how it works. Or at least that is how it needs to work for me. His pressure on you to lose weight, imo, has contributed to your weight gain, no doubt from stress and feeling unloved. Is this how you want to live your life? Only you can answer this.
Helena
July 9, 2017 - 4:55amThis Comment