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By October 10, 2009 - 5:19pm
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I have trouble geting an orgasm, i get this feeling that im gonna get it but then it just goes away and after iv had sex i get this sort of irretating feeling that i want to pee but when i pee the feeling is still there and it doesnt go until a while later when i masturbate i get an orgasm , iv tried every sex possition with my partner and i still dont get it, i dont know what do im with a really good man that cares about me and i think it hurts him that he cant satisfy me.

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Hi Anna,

After reading your other question, I have problems trusting the man in my life, where you say that not only do you not trust him, but you have been molested several times as a very young girl (I am so, so sorry), that these early experiences probably have a profound impact on how your body physically is able to react to sexual pleasure.

Some women, even without a traumatic and sexually violent past, are not able to have an orgasm, either. Even more women are unable to have an orgasm during intercourse, and can only achieve an orgasm through other types of physical stimulation that does not occur during sex. (As one woman said, "oh...if only the penis were "L" shaped...).

I think the most important thing you can do for yourself is to seek counseling with a good, trusted professional who can help you first with trust and other important relationship facets, as an important part of having an orgasm is the mental and emotional aspects (much more than the physical) in the relationship.

There are many, many other women who have asked this question, and you can read some of the responses below:
-Why Can't I Orgasm?
-Women can't orgasm; is this a sexual dysfunction? Video from medical expert Dr. Klein
-Anatomy of an Orgasm

October 11, 2009 - 7:40am
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