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Why do I feel very depressed for a couple of weeks after sexual arousal ?

By Anonymous September 28, 2014 - 4:16pm
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I am 51 and male. This has become worse gradually since my early 30s

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Hi Anon

Thanks for your question.

You may have read about depression after sex on our site. 

Post-coital tristesse means "after sex sadness" from the Latin word post-coital and French word tristesse for 'sadness' .  It sounds like this may be what's going on with you. 

Nobody knows exactly why this may happen. There could be both an emotional and physical component going on. The physical is thought to be due to the hormone prolactin. This is something that women produce more of in order to breastfeed but men have this hormone too. 

When men and women orgasm, this hormone prolactin surges in the body but instead of causing a good feeling, it actually makes a person feel depressed.

But this after-sex sadness should be temporary - certainly not lasting two weeks. 

Are you willing to talk to someone about this? I know it's not easy for either men or women to delve into topics like this but counselling is known to help and your regular doctor may be able to help you if he or she believes a surge in prolactin is what's causing you depression. 



September 29, 2014 - 5:03am
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