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why do i get bored making love with my husband?

By March 29, 2011 - 9:18am
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me again ^^,

i love sex,i love making love,i love the idea having sex with him... but most of the time i get bored.... i thought maybe trying different positions... i tried 2 be creative... i love him so much... but i find it hard to get aroused quickly with him... it takes long enough for me 2 reach climax and before reaching that point i've come 2 realized im bored... altho he getz the job done, i seldom get the satisfaction i want... i would love to go for 2nd/3rd rounds, but he can't keep up... i didn't have this problem when we were still dating... its not like this before... back then it was me who can't keep up for more... i really miss those times... i really often times get sexual frustrated... i want him bad... i wanna know... is it me or is he the problem?? he enjoys the sex we're having i think... but im having trouble bout enjoying myself... he puts effort on fore playing and licking... its just that i want more... i don't feel his "thing" inside me like it used to be... why is that?

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You are too young and too newly married to be unhappy and dissatisfied with your sexual relationship with your husband. I can understand that you feel uncomfortable talking about such intimate matters with a someone. But, if you want to correct the problem, you need to take that step or leap forward to get help. Uncorrected, this situation may put a strain on your marriage.
A professional, sensitive and well-trained counselor who deals with couples should be able to help you feel comfortable talking about and exploring solutions to your problem. But you and your husband have to be receptive to counseling for this to work.
Wishing you the best. We are hear to listen and be supportive.

March 30, 2011 - 5:57pm

Hi SaintSinner,
Honestly, I think only you and your husband can answer your opening question. Have you talked to your husband about your boredom during sex with him? When you mention that there have been changes from when you were dating to now, that you are married, this raises the question of how old are you? how long have you been married? how tired is your husband from work, etc. when you decide to have sex?
Rather than asking who has the problem, might I suggest seeking intervention from a professional couples' counselor. Working together, under the guidance of a trained counselor, you and your husband can achieve mutual satisfaction in your sex life.

March 29, 2011 - 4:35pm
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

im 24, we're both the same age... i don't think that he's that tired from work... i think he is just more interested in playing and watching hockey than spending time with me... we've been married for 3 yrs now... i just really hate it when he's always busy with hockey than with me... i get frustrations when he wants sex and i give myself to him a hundred and one percent for his satisfaction! while he gives me frustrations! and im kind of a shy person... im to shy to go ask for help with someone professional in dealing with this kind of problems... i can bearly make myself understandable in writing here on your side...if you notice.. i really appreciate all your help and advices...

March 30, 2011 - 10:05am
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