Why does my bf want me to use a vibrator when I have never enjoyed having sex?

By Anonymous April 9, 2013 - 6:23am

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Hello I haven't had sex with my bf yet and he told me I should get a vibrator. I have never enjoyed having sex in the past as its too uncomfortable and hurts (I have had sex about 10 times in the past and I felt no pleasure). My bf could only use one finger pleasuring me the other night because I'm so tight it hurt when he tried two fingers. He told me I should get a vibrator to explore and see what I like in my own time because he said he didn't want to hurt me and that once I have used it, I could tell him what I enjoy etc. I understand he is being very considerate as I have never had a bf as concerned about my enjoyment before but at the same time I don't know if what he is doing is normal or even right? Is he being lazy by asking me to buy a vibrator? I am a little nervous about using/buying one because if I struggle with his finger how am I going to be able to fit a vibrator? What does it mean that he wants me to get a vibrator? Should he be the one buying it since he suggested it or am I just being fussy? I have never used one, or been asked to use one so I am little confused about what to do or think about it. Thank you for any help or suggestions :) x

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Anonymous

A specialist such as an OBGYN, would be best to treating this kind of problem. You might be able to check with your local hospital or clinic. They can give you a list of names of specialist in your area.

Best,

Daisy

April 10, 2013 - 4:23am

Anonymous

Hi Anon,

Welcome to EmpowHER. I think before you go buy any sex toys. It more important to see an OBGYN and explain what you feel during intercourse. It's not normal for a woman to feel this way. He might suggest tests and treatments to help you in making your sexual life more enjoyable.

Best,

Daisy

April 9, 2013 - 7:01am

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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Hello Daisy, Thank you for the reply. So you think I may have a malfunction down below? Can I go to my normal GP or not I don't know where to find a OBGYN?
Thanks,
Anon

April 9, 2013 - 7:27am