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Why does my boyfriend not like to have sex very often?

By August 23, 2010 - 2:10pm
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We have only been together 7 months & we never have had alot of sex. once a week at the most. he always says hes tired or stressed out from work but he doesnt work on the weekends & we never have sex on the weekend. another thing is that if we do then it has to be really freaky all crazy porn style for him to get turned on & stay that way. i was thinking maybe cuz he more experienced than i am. idk. Hes alot older than me (37) & im only 21 so could it just be his age? hes very silly & fun to be with & we are very loving towards eachother its just the lack of sex. maybe someone can give me advice.

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You may not be sexually compatible, if this has always been what your relationship entails.

Since you know this is how your boyfriend is sexually (sex infrequently, "crazy porn style" sex when it does occur), is this what you want in a relationship? Just be honest with yourself, and be aware of what is going on in the relationship. You might be fine with this for now, you might change your mind later.

It does strike me as odd, and it has nothing to do with a man being more "experienced" (my husband is 11 years older than I am). Certain people enjoy sex in certain ways, but what is MOST important is that you BOTH have an EQUAL say in what type of sex you have. If sex is always "porn-like", and you would like it to be more romantic, slow, intimate, then say something. Expect more out of your relationship. If your boyfriend needs extreme measures to be turned on, you might need to talk with him about your concern. His response will be very telling (if he blows you off, doesn't respond, does not care), then this might not be the relationship you are looking for; it is not a healthy relationship if both people are unable to communicate openly and honestly about their sexual preferences and overall concerns.

Good luck!

August 24, 2010 - 7:40pm
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