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Why does my boyfriend not want to have sex with me?

By Anonymous May 2, 2011 - 9:55pm
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months. When we first got together, he used condoms all the time and we did it all the time. About 3 months into the relationship I got on birth control. Since then, I felt like he thought it was my responsibility to make sure there was some kind of protection. Over the past few months he hasn't been initiating sex like he used to. He acts like I'm the one that's got to want it for it to happen. He never just climbs on top of me just because. It's always me that's begging. It's frustrating because he doesn't know how it's making me feel inside. I just want to feel beautiful and wanted. While he does tell me I'm beautiful and that he loves me, it's still not the same. I even feel bored sometimes when we are having sex because it's always the same. He never wants to be spontaneous or try something new. Please help. I love him so much and I don't want to leave him. He always says he's tired and has to do something. It's like he's avoiding having sex with me. I've even talked to him about it and he gets angry and tells me sex isn't the most important thing in the relationship and says it's all I care about when it isn't. I really do love him. We've even talked about getting married and having kids. Again, help please. I feel so unwanted.

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Hi Anonymous,
This question has been asked time and again. You are not alone in your concerns. Please check out this similar ASK to gain some insight into your own situation. The moderator responses are common for these types of questions.
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Good luck~

May 3, 2011 - 8:54am
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