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Why does my boyfriend prefer porn over real sex with me?

By March 11, 2010 - 11:22pm
 
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I am a 26 year old female that has a stable relationship with a man twice my age. We have been together for almost 3 years. He is a very active person. He exercises almost every day, he's also a yoga instructor and does martial arts. In the sports part I find it difficult to keep up with, but when it comes to having sex, I almost have to rape him. I feel very depressed because I found out that he prefers to watch porn on his computer, rather than having sex with me. I am an attractive women, and very full of energy, so I don't know if he is just not into me.

I really need good advice, I truly love this man; but I also have needs. We have been arguing about it, he says that he doesn't know what is going on. I feel very frustrated, and sad at the same time. HELP!!!

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Adri,

I am very sorry that you are experiencing a sexless relationship at the moment. There have been many "no sex" posts lately much like yours and you may actually find these rather helpful:

http://www.empowher.com/community/ask/why-doesnt-my-boyfriend-want-have-sex-me-anymore
http://www.empowher.com/community/ask/my-boyfriend-doesnt-want-have-sex-me-there-anything-i-can-do
http://www.empowher.com/community/ask/why-doesnt-my-husband-want-me
http://www.empowher.com/news/herarticle/2010/03/11/not-having-enough-sex-you-are-not-alone

One of the biggest complaints is that the boyfriend doesn't have sex but yet masturbates to or watches porn-- you are not alone. Many men fall into this sometimes perhaps because they are bored with their own sex lives. There could be so many other reasons though, Adri, and that is why I recommend you check out the other posts I have linked in.

Best Wishes.

March 12, 2010 - 6:32am
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