Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?
We've been dating for over a yer now but in the last few months our sex has drastically decreased at first started to go down from at least 1-2 times a day for at least 5 months and then it went down to 1-2 times a week and then to 1-2 times a month and now it's been a month and a half since we've had sex. I've read a few articles about this allready, but none seem to fit my problem exactly. I was worried for a while that it might be me that was the problem and but he told me it wasn't and i know he wouldn't lie to me. I've asked him about it but he says theres nothing wrong. I just don't know what to do anymore. He's only a year older than me and he's suppose to be in hes prime. Is there anything I can do? I Haven't pressured him or anything because I dont want him to do it just to shut me up. I want him to want to. and I'm just not satistied anymore and im not asking for everyday, at this point once or twice a week would be nice. A far as I know there's nothing he's stressed about at work or school, could it be a cobination of the 2? or something else going on that I don't know about? and please keep in mind that im am searching for help and advice and I don't want to hear find a new boyfriend. I love him and im not leaving him, even if it means were not going to have sex anymore. But it's frustration for the time being as I find it a tad odd that I want it more than he does. and I don't really want to talk to any of my friends abotu it because I live in a small town and this is personal and I don't need everyone talking about it. and the last thing I want him to feel is embarassed. I havn't told anyone of my friends but I'm in need of some advice. Any Ideas?
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o really just cause it happened to your ass dont instill that in her mind shit im 28 lost my job and a bunch of other shit all at once moved in with her and all alot of shit happened real fast real quick stress
i don't agree. i'm going through the same thing, and my boyfriend is also my best friend, i.e. one of the most loyal people I have ever known. not all guys are assholes; some have different issues or needs than the general douchebag guy who wants everything that moves. not ruling it out, but i really don't think that's the problem, and i don't think you should automatically say he cheated on her. again, not all guys are like that...i've been with ones that were, and i've met a lot that aren't (from intense, close friendships and relationships), and found one for myself that isn't. but, like i said, i'm going through the same thing...i'm flabbergasted, but i'm absolutely sure he isn't cheating. there is such a thing as faithfulness, even in this day...and hell, we aren't even religious. :D
you don't have to be so straight forward and mean to some one who is hurting. Cheating is sadly a factor in everyone's world, but it should never be the first thing you think about. Trust is the basis of all relationships to think about him/her cheating means you don't trust them and in turn why should they trust you
no one has contacted me. i keep loosing my password. i am onso many sightsthatrequirepaswords i cannot keep up with them. by the things are getting worse. my self esteem is crushed. all i do is drink more alcohol and take more substances to push away the hurt. the physical pain of him not caring doe's not go away. any idea's ? I AM NOT GIVING UP SO DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME
hi so stp the drinkin en nd ur self esteem wil pick up soon.