Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

I just don't understand how relationships start off so good and then it comes to bs like this. When there is love, and I mean real love, then you and your partner should be able to work any obstacles out including sex. I completely understand if there are physical ailments involved and he can't get aroused or perform to par but when all other possibilities have been eliminated then that is when us females turn to our last option....he's cheating. Although he may not be cheating thats all we have. And then men can't understand why we get so upset and depressed and feel inadequate/unattractive. Men, this is why. I'm not trying to point the finger at the male species but I've heard too many men ask me why females are so sensitive. Well, this is a huge reason why. The relationship starts out so good. You're both all over eachother and you laugh all the time and its just good. Then you start to get more and more serious and its almost like something clicks and says "okay, you got her, you can stop trying so hard". And then the flirting and playfulness subsides, the amount of sex decreases, you get more and more comfortable and start to almost live like you're single again. So the female is sitting there thinking what has happened, how come he's not all over me anymore, how come we don't do things together anymore,etc. So when us females do ask whats the problem men hear it as "what is wrong with you". Well, obviously there isn't anything wrong because its just the change that has taken place over a certain period of time. So men really can't give us women that particular answer. And we are left wondering and then the wheels in our minds start turning. So hopefully this makes for a better understanding. Even when there is love involved or not, there is no excuse to stay in an unhappy relationship. NO EXCUSE. Men or women...its your life so take control of it. Don't let someone else drag you down. Sometimes we need to listen to our minds more than our hearts because there may be one too many callouses on our heart.

probably she doesnt want to have se*.I am like this and im a girl,probably she finds it really painful and she doesnt tell u so do i.
but try to talk to her.say wats rong is there something im bothering you?or say is my se* borin. ALWAYS TRY...hope i helped..!!:)

probably she doesnt want to have se*.I am like this and im a girl,probably she finds it really painful and she doesnt tell u so do i.
but try to talk to her.say wats rong is there something im bothering you?or say is my se* borin. ALWAYS TRY...hope i helped..!!:)

probably she doesnt want to have se*.I am like this and im a girl,probably she finds it really painful and she doesnt tell u so do i.
but try to talk to her.say wats rong is there something im bothering you?or say is my se* borin. ALWAYS TRY...hope i helped..!!:)

probably she doesnt want to have se*.I am like this and im a girl,probably she finds it really painful and she doesnt tell u so do i.
but try to talk to her.say wats rong is there something im bothering you?or say is my se* borin. ALWAYS TRY...hope i helped..!!:)

probably she doesnt want to have se*.I am like this and im a girl,probably she finds it really painful and she doesnt tell u so do i.
but try to talk to her.say wats rong is there something im bothering you?or say is my se* borin. ALWAYS TRY...hope i helped..!!:)

probably she doesnt want to have se*.I am like this and im a girl,probably she finds it really painful and she doesnt tell u so do i.
but try to talk to her.say wats rong is there something im bothering you?or say is my se* borin. ALWAYS TRY...hope i helped..!!:)

I think that all men are different. I know that my boyfriend loves me, I have never doubted this. But we haven't been having sex lately...At first I thought maybe he was feeling bad that I was always having him make the move, so I decided to jump him, he denied me. Needless to say this led to a lot of crying and talking.

He is really stressed out at work and he hasn't had any time to spend with me for the past month or so. I had made a comment before we got back together that our relationship had been "just sex" so now he feels guilty having sex with me when he doesn't have time to spend with me during the day.

It's a really hard situation to deal with. Honestly, I don't need sex. I am fine without it. But I do need to feel like he wants to be with me. You just have to find a way to cope until he's through with his issues. Find other ways to feel needed and loved.

I would say to everyone having this issue that if you really do love your man, believe him first, don't accuse him. And look inside and see if you said or did something to change the situation. Men do listen more than we like to notice. And if you have said something about sex to make him feel guilty, then maybe you should address it.

P.S.
I think it is understandable for this man to not want to have sex with his girlfriend when he is not physically attracted to her. Men and women are different sexually. Women don't need to be physically attracted to have sex with someone they love. But men do. And I think it was very strong of him to admit to the reason why. But I also think that he should talk to his girlfriend because she's probably feeling the same way that we all are. I'm sure she will be willing to put forth the effort to better herself for you. If you suggested a diet or workout plan, do it with her so she doesn't feel alone in the whole thing.

Goodluck <3

First off, I think all of you women who are ganging up on him are very selfish and unreasonable, if he still loves her, but does not want to stick is thing in her, there is nothing wrong with that. So so what if she got fat or overweight and he doesn't think they should be having sex anymore, how can a man have sex with a women who he no longer can get off to anymore. It really isn't his fault, nor is it hers, it's just a normal way of life. A relationship is not just based on sex, so if he still loves her for who she is (but not sexualy) it's ok

Hi guys.. i got the similar problem.. i am in a long distance relationship.. its a really big distance over 5000 miles, i am from switzerland and he is from new york. at the moment i am with him tomorrow i gona leave back home it will reallly kill me.. i am not even sure anymore if he cheat on me or if he got someone else.. he act weird to me.. he dont even want i touch him intimate. i dont know what is going on.. we just get engaged too.. i am very confused.. i have the feeling he doesnt want me anymore or i am no more atractiv for him.. today we wanted to have sex he began after a long time the before play in bed and he expect that i get horny in a little while that we can have sex. i am not aggree with this he wasnt ever like this.. does he just use me?? does he even love me ??? I AM LOST PLEASE HELP ME