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Why doesn't my fiance want to have sex?

By June 8, 2010 - 1:24am
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I'm 24 and he's 32 (that may be part of the problem), weve' been together for about 3 years. He used to want to have sex all the time, but during the past 8 months or so he hasn't wanted it too much. I know he still has a strong sex drive because he watches porn everyday. Do you think he's just bored with my body? I mean, I couldn't blame him --- I don't know why he was ever attracted to me in the first place. Anyway, I feel really bad. And I wonder if he's seeing someone else. I know guys get bored with the same thing all the time, and regardless of which man I'm with he's going to get bored because that's their nature. But, how do I cope with it? It's such a blow to my self-esteem. I've basically accepted the fact that he doesn't want it. I just need to learn how to cope with the reality. Any advice?

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Have you talked with him about your concerns? This sounds like it is a relationship issue that is much deeper than whether you two are having sex or not. You do not sound like you have much confidence in yourself (why is that?), and you are accusing him of cheating.

Please talk with your boyfriend about what you want out of a healthy, happy and exclusive relationship, and expect him to be open and honest with you about what he wants.

June 8, 2010 - 7:20pm
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