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Why doesnt my husband not care?

By Anonymous February 19, 2014 - 4:38am
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My husband works from 3pm until 12am. I do what I can around the house while I am basically taking care of the children and house myself. I suffer from epilepsy and have at least 4 to 6 seizures a month. I know my husband is stressed beyond his means but he acts so happy with the children and there might be a day or two that he gives me even the slightest attention. We have been with one another going on six and married three. It's hurting me so bad that it is affecting my mental health and that increases my seizure threshold (number of seizures). I try to keep the worries of my life bottled up. It's killing me. The last compliment I had was at least two years ago. I have to beg for him to cuddle to me plus I am a very very horny 32 yr old woman who is used to sex no less than 4 to 5 days a week. Now I would be lucky if it were once or twice. He said he has given up on the bedroom for the simple fact that I do not care a whole lot about porn. Believe me, I have tried so so hard to make this man happy in every single way and it is just not seeming to work. He refuses to go to counseling. Sometimes I feel he is bipolar, one time he is happy and lovable like the man I married, then in the blink of a eye he will go off like a cannon. All I want is my true husband back and I am desperate. I don't want to plead and beg every time I want attention, affection, or to even lay close to me in bed so I may fall asleep. I even wait to go to bed til he gets home and then I sleep with him. Please help me someone. If marriage is like this I want no part of it and its breaking my heart.

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June 25, 2014 - 7:29am
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Hi Anon,

Welcome to EmpowHER.  Not all marriages are like that.  Communication is the key to any relationship. If this is how you feel about him, then you need to make some time with him alone and explain how you feel.  You might be able to come to an agreement about  seeking counseling or it might just not work out anymore between you both. You need to ask him what he wants from this relationship, if he is still willing to make it work.  Why would you want to stay in a relationship that's just making you worst with your seizures. Hope this was helpful? Please keep us posted.



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