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Why don't I want sex?

By Anonymous November 12, 2014 - 10:28am
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I've read tons of articles and books. I've to plenty of people. I can't figure out what's happening with me.

I've been dating the same person for 4 years and I've never had a sex drive. He's the only person I've been with. It's a strong relationship and he's extremely patient with the trouble I'm having. I've talked to doctors and the meds I'm on are the least possible to affect libido. I talk to a counselor. My boyfriend and I are really open about all this. I try to pleasure myself but I don't even want that. The thing is- I wish I wanted to have sex but I rarely ever do. I've counted- it's been twice in the past month I've even thought about it. There is no other person I've ever come across who I'm sexually attracted to. I used to think about it in high school but since I can't even do that. What is wrong with me? What do I need to do to fix this? I am not one to 'fake' it and I can barely get myself to go along with it even if I'm not in the mood.

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Have you considered that you might be asexual? If you have trouble finding other people attractive then that might be the case.

November 16, 2014 - 4:30am

Hello Anonymous,

Welcome to EmpowHER and thank you for coming to us with your concern about a lack of libido.

I do not know if I can add anything that has not already been said by the experts you have seen.

The American Medical Association has estimated that several million US women suffer from what doctors often call 'female sexual arousal disorder' (FSAD).

In researching an answer, I found an interesting possibility,
hyperprolactinaemia – a rare disorder in which the pituitary gland is overactive.

Psychological factors to consider are poor body image, low self-esteem and a history of physical or sexual abuse.

I understand that you have spoken with a number of physicians and a counselor. But have you discussed this with a female gynecologist?


November 12, 2014 - 10:43am
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