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Why isn't my husband isn't attracted to me?

By Anonymous November 17, 2010 - 8:36am
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Every since me and my husband have gotten married he hasn't wanted to have sex with me. He still has sex with me, but he doesn't want to. I have to beg him to have sex with me. Most of the time he says he's too tired or just doesn't want to, but always jumps at the chance to have a blow job. When he is having sex with me, it seems rushed like he would rather be doing it with someone else or just not doing it at all. He looks at porn a lot, and sometimes it seems that he would rather get off on that than to be with me. It began to get a lot worse near the end of my pregnancy. I like to have sex with him because of how close we get to each other. I love the closeness. I miss that and I miss him. Everytime he turns me down I feel so ugly, unattractive and useless. He doesn't even compliment me or tell me I'm pretty anymore. I guess he just thinks I should know how he feels, but I don't. The only time he DOES tell me I pretty is if I fish around for it and have to drag it out of him. He used to love my body and the way it looked and now he could care less what it looks like. I can't help but think its because of how much my body has changed during pregnancy and after birth. I constantly wonder what I have done wrong and what it would be like if I just walked away, but I keep pushing those thoughts to the back of my mind. I wouldn't leave him though, I am completely in love with him. I try to talk to him about it and he says that it hurts his feelings when I say stuff like that. It usually winds up with us arguing and then going to bed angry. I'm so frustrated and confused. I needed someone to tell my problems too and I'm so embarrassed that my husband doesn't want me that I just can't open up to anybody. I don't know what to do. I'm so hurt.

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