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Why is sex painful in one spot of my vagina?

By Anonymous December 15, 2011 - 6:02pm
 
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When I first started having sex, it was something I looked forward to. But, several months later (after I started taking the pill) sex became painful. In the back of my vagina, on one side, there is always pain during intercourse.

I've tried different lubricants, different positions, I've changed my birth control countless times, but I still have pain. Some days are worse than others. It is very rare that I do not feel some discomfort during sex. No matter how gentle and patient my husband is, I still hurt.

I don't understand why I can't get rid of the pain. And all the doctors and nurses tell me is to try a different lubricant. I don't have insurance, so I got to a health center. But, no one at the clinics understand what is wrong with me and they don't know how to help me.

Is there anything I can do? Do you know of any possible reason why I am having pain after only 3 months of enjoying sex? I've been dealing with this problem for nearly 2 years now. I've only ever had one sexual partner in my life.

Please, help me if you can. Thank you.

- Amelia

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Anonymous

My husband and I have been married 23years which we have had great sex but in the last 5 yrs I have had horrible pain. With lidocaine I can have sex without hurting to much. My doctor wants to do surgery but my lung doctor won't allow it. I really need another solution . Any help appreciated.

July 21, 2017 - 12:41am
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Anonymous

Ladies please check for cysts as well.

February 4, 2017 - 8:22am
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Anonymous

I have the same problem and I don't know what to do. My doctor is making me try creams and antibiotics but nothing works. We are trying to abstain but after two weeks we tried again and the pain came back. Its like this spot towards the bottom of the vagina just inside a little bit.

October 24, 2013 - 4:44am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I have the exact same problem and its freaking me out :(

November 25, 2014 - 5:03pm
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Anonymous

I have the exact same situation and I know it's not a lack of lubrication or even a "mental" thing. I'm very comfortable with my partner, have had 2 healthy exams, switched my birth control several times and it only gets worse but the doctor says I'm fine. Please let me know if you had any luck finding a solution!

May 19, 2013 - 6:19pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Actually, my condition has since been diagnosed as endometriosis. Every case varies in degree, but I would recommend reading up on the disease if you're not familiar with it. The sad part is that it's incurable, until we hit menopause. There are ways to deal with it, but it depends on what your other symptoms are. I'm actually looking into a more natural form of dealing with my condition, and I'm finding more success. If you look up Natural Endo Girls, you may have some luck in understanding and dealing with your pain, if you do have endometriosis.

Good luck! And, thank you for sharing your mutual pain with me.
- Amelia

May 25, 2013 - 12:50pm
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Dyspareunia is the medical term for painful intercourse. New pain after previously pain-free intercourse is one symptom.

Insufficient lubrication is a common cause. Other causes are injury or irritation, reaction to birth control products, like latex condoms or two conditions, vaginismus and vestibulitis.

Deep pain usually occurs with deep penetration. Uterine fibroids, cystitis and ovarian cysts can cause pain.

Your pelvic floor muscles are very sensitive to stress. Stress can lead to painful intercourse.

I understand the limitations of getting proper medical treatment when you do not have health insurance. (A sad commentary of life in America).

Ideally, a thorough medical history, pelvic examination, pelvic ultrasound or laparoscopy are done to make a diagnosis.

Treatment option begin with changing positions (trying being on top of your husband), try longer foreplay to help stimulate your natural lubrication and delay penetration until you feel fully aroused.

Medical intervention include testing to find the underlying condition (is the cause an infection), desensitization therapy ( Kegel or pelvic floor exercises to decrease pain with intercourse) and sex therapy.

I hope this helps,

Maryann

December 15, 2011 - 6:57pm
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