Women often get stuck into the role of "people pleaser." This can cause enormous problems for the woman.
Doing what others want, not taking care of her needs and trying to be "perfection."
Eventually she may fall into depression. I have treated women for years who slip into this problem. It seems we are programmed perhaps even in the womb to become the chameleon.
Fortunately once the woman begins to recognize when she falls into the "Miss Perfection" role, she can over time begin to change her behaviors.
Old habits change slowly, but eventually she succeeds in feeling better.
Paula Leslie, LCSW, BCD - Essential Life Strategies
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Hi Paula,
Thank you for your post! It is an interesting topic and many people do fall into pleasing others and not standing up for themselves enough.
If people do fall into this cycle of seeking perfection and trying to constantly please, what are some tips for them to get out of it?
Best,
August 23, 2016 - 4:27pmErin
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HI Erin,
Good Question. I would begin noticing when you realize if you have slipped into that role. Then, keep a journal (just for you) and write
about the experience and how you felt about yourself.
Let me know how this works for you.
Paula
Paula Leslie, LCSW, BCD
August 23, 2016 - 8:39pmEssential Life Strategies
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