I've recently got married and it's been some months. He's in a different country but we still try to have a good relationship, he is a good guy and deals and tolerates a lot of my faults and weakness and vice versa. Anyways we had decided we wouldn't have kids until 2-3 years after marriage so we can be ready mentally and also financially. After the wedding I was with him for a month and a half and we did have sex and it was fine but usually it didn't last more than 30 mins. I have talked to him about this and he says he don't really likes to talk about it but rather just go with the flow and not "plan" but I was only suggesting how I would like it longer and more foreplay since he likes to jump to the intercourse.
He recently told me the reason he's hesitant having sex is cause he feels he won't be able to get me pregnant so he stresses himself out and therefore distance himself from lovemaking. On the other hand I can have a high sex drive and want it longer if not often but im afraid we might have a problem in the bedroom and I won't be satisfied but im willing to work through it and help him first to get rid of his fear I wouldn't want him over me knowing he's not much happy doing it, I want him to be willing and happy making love to me but im not sure what to do? BTW were both physically and medically fine and were both in our mid 20's.
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