My husband and I met and were just friends for the better part of a year. We had a great time together and I love how his mind works so when we both became single we started going out. The first year of our relationship we had way too much fun... we stayed up too late, drank too much, we were up and down, so in love then fighting terribly. We usually had sex more than once a day. I got pregnant. A baby was not what I wanted at that point in my life. I felt like I was done having children and wanted to spend my later adult life having fun and working on myself as a person. My now husband had never had children. I thought long and hard about my options. I could not get rid of a baby that we made in love. My now husband said he was on board with having a family and changing our lives. I wanted to give him a child...he is smart and wonderful and I knew he would be a good father. We had both been very irresponsible financially and had a long road ahead to be prepared for this surprise bundle of joy we had on the way. Instantly our sex life was almost non existent. He would stay up late drinking like we always had and I would lay in bed and cry and feel sorry for myself. I felt like while I was making him a baby he was happy to ditch me for whatever was fun at the moment. I talked to him about how lonely I was and how I was aching to feel like we were in this together. He made it clear that me being pregnant was not a reason for him to change his life. I think he looked at the pregnancy as his last hurrah. I fell into a deep depression and felt like I wasn't going to make it through the pregnancy. Somehow we made it and we now have a lovely three month old baby girl. She is the light of my husbands life. I am only working part time and have the baby even when I am at work. I feel like he is taking resposibility financially, we each go out about three hours a week, and I am usually happy with our home life. I think he is too. We still only have sex mabey once a week. At first I thought it might be the extra 15lbs I walked out of the hospital with...the 15lbs is gone and still no passionate sex! The last time I remember my husband kissing me like he really ment it (embarrassing!!!) he was dreaming. When he woke up and realized it was me he went back to sleep! I don't know what to do. I am so physically lonely. I want to have sex every day I have always had a high sex drive and have never had a lover that wasn't interested in me sexually. How do I talk to him about it? I don't want to hurt him or make him feel bad. Please help.
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