I see the website is called HER and has the title Women's Health & Wellness. However, I read, at least in part, that this is a women's website. However, as a man, I do have an account with this site and I would like to share a few ideas here about my suicide.
First, a lady is not weaker than a man by nature. She is just more emotional, perhaps genetically but also physical strength of a man does not mean he is emotionally stable either. So, people are people but what that really means is that suicide is not normal and that is really well explained in what I read on the site here.
That is, yes, most people do not want to commit suicide because it would happen much more often if they did. On that note, I totally agree that it's not normal. However, I also agree that pain and what comes of it does have to do with suicide and to lesser degrees feelings of worthlessness and guilt are part of it too.
For me, guilt had been the main reason for my attempted suicide which I do not associate as much with feelings of worthlessness and pain. Pain had been from my guilt though and it began to bother me so the pain grew, but none of the ideas (worthlessness, guilt, and pain) are part of my current state of mind for the attempted suicide (as in I have none of those feelings now regarding why I did it). Now, I have no guilt for my sins which caused me to contemplate and eventually attempt suicide.
Having said that, any man or woman seeking help, I would say your best ally is yourself. Your family and friends can only help you so much, hence a great point about this is said in that someone can kill himself or herself regardless. This feeling of helplessness should not create your reality for you. Only you can help yourself and only you will be living in your own skin and only you know your reality. So, based on what you know about yourself, not committing suicide is easy if you have seriously attempted it in the past.
After having attempted suicide, as I mentioned, my guilt for my sins that caused me to do it is no longer with me. So, guilt is not a religious phenomenon. It's what makes us human. Not to be away from the subject, psychology is not the answer to deal with health issues. It's only part of the answer. A person must be willing to accept that others do no want them to live. We have that part of our brain which goes into harassment mode where we are just picking apart others like they don't matter.
No matter how great the pain might be before or after, an attempted suicide is not going to make a person worse off. To me, the act in no way makes me weak. On the contrary, only a strong person, especially mentally, would decide to do that to himself/herself instead of to others. A weak person is aggressive and only knows how to pray on others, and only looks to fault others or looks for fault in others. A weak person feels they need to elevated above others and only knows how to demoralize and attempt to further weaken the already weak. A weak person knows nothing of feelings anyway, because they completely lack emotional intelligence.
I am in no way condoning suicide. I'm only after the audience who have attempted suicide. Failed attempt is an adequate way to describe an attempted suicide so this is where strength is derived. Strength in yourself that is, where you can only get stronger after you have been through a terrible ordeal like a suicidal attempt. I would even say that I have an even greater emotional intelligence now, though it's still difficult for me to share feelings as I am a man (maybe also genetic).
I hope my response here reaches more than one person, because rest assured, living is a good thing. For any person considering suicide, there is help, but you need to be the person who cures yourself.
I haven't completely cured myself, however, I am headed that direction. This self-help attitude is a direct contradiction to feelings of helplessness, thus suicide goes out the window, yes? Yes.
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