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Hello rlyons, thank you for your questions. This is the only blog I have joined amongst the many that are having a time with my confession.

Indeed, it is easy to assume that my relations with objects relegates me to a life of isolation but I don't want people to get the wrong idea about me. I am not a recluse who has no relationships. In fact I have a great circle of friends and I don't need or wish anything more from them... I love them and would give the shirt off my back but the higher emotional relationship you are referring to is strictly between me and the one I love which happens to be an object. I have been this way my entire life and while I have dated in an effort to conform, it was a lie and the person sensed this and I only ended up hurting us both.

My love for objects is the stuff you mention and then some.

As for children, I cannot have them nor have I ever had a desire to raise them. Yet I do appreciate the wonder and joy of the young. I absolutely love coaching kids in archery. One of my kids just won two national championships!

Please if you will... consider if you can... that I am actually happy the way I am. :)

Also I might add a forewarning about the UK Documentary mentioned above. It is a horrible portrayal of my way of love and life and I regret trusting that salacious seeking director.

In my naivety I let her set me up for scenes only to find out after airing her intent was shock value via sexual connotations. Much of the words I use are directed. I am not an openly sexual person at all. The other woman is. I was constantly compared to this woman and was at odds with the director throughout filming.

A note to all who watch the horrible documentary. I did not consummate with the Eiffel Tower. That is a bold faced lie to which I am still battling with the producers.

Also, I am very offended that she tried to pathologize my OS. I may have had a difficult upbringing but there are many others who have also had similar or worse and they are not OS.

As I see it: I am not OS because of traumatic events in my life. I am an OS person who has had traumatic things happen in my life.

Regards, Erika

Something that came out of the BBC program is that, while unconventional, this state of mind or condition, whatever it is, is very real to the women (around 40 worldwide) who are known to be objectum sexuals. The comment that objectum sexuals are mostly women was rather interesting, and there seemed to be a correlation to a "broken" relationship with the father that was carried further into an inability to hold a "normal" relationship with a male. An article I found online (I don't know how reliable the source) suggested some level of childhood abuse or traumatic relationship.

Asperger's Disorder was also raised as a possible commonality among a small number of the women. Whatever the case may be, it was interesting to see how the women featured in the program felt their own sense of joy when talking about the objects of their affection.

Personally, I still don't "get it," this notion than a human could have such a strong visceral connection to an object that would otherwise be shared with another human.

Then again, we're all only human and who knows what really makes anyone "tick."

This is a different anonymous.
All right, there was a companion program about men who really, really love their cars. Wonder what story the so-called experts will spin about that?
Some folks--breaking news--are just wired up differently, and it only becomes a problem when those around them mistreat them because of it, driving them further away. Erika is fortunate that she now has friends who support her, and whom she in turn can give support to. Her needs for human companionship can be filled that way, and so it's no biggie if she gets other emotional needs, or even physical ones, elsewhere--just so she isn't hurting anyone, which so far as I can tell she isn't.
I am asexual, and the thing I need from people is companionship and intellectual stimulation. I'm still a lone wolf and more into ideas [sometimes things]so some think I am strange, but if they aren't smart enough to accept me as I am they don't deserve the honor of my presence.
Not all of us fit neatly onto any sort of "autistic spectrum". That is a concept that has gotten stretched all out of shape before it even found a good use. I can only hope that as neurodiversity becomes more accepted, a lot of differences will no longer be considered disorders, and people with unusual vulnerabilities/needs will not only have those needs met but also be recognized to have unusual strengths.
As for what actually happens, I suspect there might be more going on than a simple temperature-equalization. A belief that there is some sort of energy (or "spirit") in everything is no sillier than a belief that some authority figure in the sky is watching our every move and ready to pounce--or that everything that goes on in anyone's mind can be simply reduced to the by-products of the mental modules of ancient apes. I really don't have the words to articulate what I believe, but I think we all could stand to have a little respect for what we don't happen to understand. There's no way we are going to "get" everything we encounter, however smart we are--it might have something to do with Godel, maybe--when I run into something that squicks me out and I can't quite say why, but it isn't an obvious danger, I just leave it alone. I still wouldn't mind if folks of every persuasion toned down the public displays of affection, but hey, we've all got 2 eyes that can shut and a neck that can turn.
Speaking of obvious danger, if abuse caused OS there'd be a lot more OS people around--and some OS-ers were not abused.
A necessary part of health is recognition and understanding of the diversity of minds as well as bodies.

Hello, I am the first Anon, Erika. This goes out to the second Anon.

I don't know how to put this any other way... but to say thank you. I have read 1000's of comments over the years about OS when it first hit the trenches of the internet. While all of the remarks were not bad and many of them were very supportive, your insightful comment truly spoke a relevant truth. Not just for OS people but for all those out there under the bell curve who happen to be on the edge. A copy and paste is in order. I wish to share your comment with the OS community.

PS: Yes, you are correct. I am an animist and there is much more than a simple energy exchange occurring.