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ASKQuestions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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I take it if both partners keep their outer garments such as denim jeans and basekball shorts on as well as their undergarments such as panties and boxers there is no risk of pregnancy? I am curious if there is no pre-cum or seminal fluids then there is no pregnancy?
March 31, 2013 - 2:31pmThis Comment
Hi Anon
Correct, without any sperm or seminal fluid, there cannot be a pregnancy.
Even with ejaculation, it's impossible to get pregnant with underwear and denim jeans on both parties. Sperm may be strong, but not that strong.
Best,
Susan
April 1, 2013 - 1:16pmEnjoyed a night with my boyfriend. To het pregnant you need penetration right. If so we can enjoy ourselves as long as he doesnt enter
February 20, 2013 - 7:55pmEven with just undies on orbam i mistaken
Ok so here's my story .. me and my boyfriend have never had sex.. but 2 months ago we were fully clothed and he put he hands in my pants and started touching me.. but not my vagina and he didn't finger me.. I am also on the pill due to heavy periods.. My period skipped that month and i got very worried.. so one week later I took a pregnancy test which turned out negative.. however.. i was still not convinced.. the next month i was very stressed and had exams as well.. i was sure my period wouldn't come again which it didn't but then i decided to take a test again.. it also came out negative.. should I still be worried? p.s. my boyfriend is convinced he had nothing on his hands.. but i'm still very worried!! :(
February 8, 2013 - 6:38amHello Anonymous,
When you are under stress, your adrenal glands are designed to secrete the hormone cortisol. Cortisol has a direct impact on the sex hormones estrogen, progesterone, and DHEA. High cortisol levels can cause irregular periods.
Once your stress levels come under control, your periods should return to normal.
Maryann
February 8, 2013 - 1:31pmthanks a lot for your reply :) so i should stop worrying about being pregnant right? thanks again
February 9, 2013 - 1:50amYes, you should stop worrying.
February 11, 2013 - 6:18pmMaryann
Well dry sex is really hazardous and most common reason for sexual intercourse pain.
December 24, 2012 - 1:41amMy bf and I were dryhumping. I had underwear, shorts and sweatpants on. He had briefs and shorts on. I was also on the second day of my period. I was not worried at the time, but now my period is two week late. Should I be concerened? Thanks.
December 12, 2012 - 11:43amOk hear my scenario, me n my boyfriend was dry humping and we were fully clothed i had on a jeans pants and he had on a shorts, after that he cummed in his shorts and it rubbed against my jeans pants n catch me on my leg... after that i went to the bathroom and used my rag and towel to wipe my leg..that happened saturday night and i was sooo worried that i was pregnant. monday my period came and it was fine and normal however i used the same rag and towel which i used to wipe the sperm saturday night to wipe my self sunday and monday...also my period ended the following saturday...im just worrying that i might be pregnant and im soo stressed with this situation please answer me urgently so my mind can be at rest!!!!!!!!!!!!!
December 12, 2012 - 10:16am