Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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I and my boyfriend were dry humping. I was naked but he had his underwear on. I could feel his penis a bit inside my vagina.. we both were wet. And we did this 10 days before my periods had to come.. could i be pregnant?
March 10, 2016 - 2:20pmThis Comment
Hi,
February 25, 2016 - 9:31amMe and my girlfriend got passionate and we removed our pants and started rubbing against each other.We were both wearing underpants and she wiped off the semen later with tissues. All this happened five days ago, when she was fourteen days from her menstrual cycle which makes us feel that she was ovulating. She is feeling like vomiting and has lost her appetite. What are the chances that she got pregnant through the same?
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Hi Anonymous,
There would have been no chance for pregnancy as long as you were both wearing underwear and no semen entered her vagina.
Vomiting and loss of appetite could be caused by anxiety or virus.
Regards,
February 25, 2016 - 10:17amMaryann
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Thank you for the reply.
February 25, 2016 - 11:35amThere wasn't any direct contact with semen. However, there could have been semen from my the outer portion of my underwear which could have gone into her vagina while cleaning up. Do we need to be worried?
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Hi Anonymous,
Well, there is the chance, though slight, that this could have happened. All that you can both do now is wait for her period to start.
Regards,
February 26, 2016 - 10:22amMaryann
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Hello ,
My Fiance was wearing his underwear and his jeans . Can sperms pass through jeans .we were dry hmping kind of . i am worried because we both were wet .Is der any chance of pregnancy?
February 25, 2016 - 12:13amThis Comment
If a couple has sexual contact 3 days before the girl's period starts, is there a chance the girl could get pregnant even if she does start her period on time 3 days after the sexual contact? I mean, it's only a few days, so could sperm fertilize an egg during that period/before/after, causing a pregnancy?
February 24, 2016 - 3:03pmThis Comment
Hi! While I was lying on my stomach, my boyfriend rubbed his penis against my vagina. I had underwear on, and when he cummed he got some on my underwear (between my vagina and butt), but immediately wiped it off. This happened 2 weeks after my period, and now a week after the incident I'm feeling bloated and my breasts are starting to feel sore. I also feel a bit fatigued. Could I be pregnant? i'm getting very paranoid and I would really appreciate your opinion. Thank you!
February 22, 2016 - 1:36amThis Comment
Hello
Me and my gf were dry humping. I was in shorts which was made of nylon and my gf was in her normal underwear. I ejaculated in my shorts when I was grinding. Is there a pregnancy risk?
February 20, 2016 - 1:57pmThis Comment
Hi, i am a virgin but me and my boyfriend were rubbing and but when he came i was sitting on the floor and it only came on my stomach and outer leg NOTHING near the vulva and i got my period on the same day for 7 normal days and this month my period was due on the 5th and it didnt come till now i have been stressing since 1st of february.
Ps. I was sick and was on antibiotic from 3rd- 7th
February 16, 2016 - 2:12pmThis Comment