Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hello Anonymous,
There was no risk for pregnancy because she was wearing clothes and having her period.
Pre-ejaculate fluid itself does not contain sperm, however sperm left behind from a previous ejaculation might be an eager stow-away on the pre-ejaculate cargo ship.
When some men are sexually aroused, this fluid may be visible as a clear liquid at the tip of the penis. It is an alkaline fluid released by the Cowper's glands, which are located at the top of a man's urethra, just below the prostate. It. helps neutralize the urethra's acidity, protecting sperm that will pass through the urethra during ejaculation.
Regards,
January 5, 2016 - 9:33amMaryann
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Hi thanks again, but 2nd pointer it says that "outercourse cannot include ejaculation near vagina with semen even with clothes" does that mean it still has a chance to get through clothing?
January 5, 2016 - 6:20pmThis Comment
As me and my gf are so close we two got involved in sex on the 13 of dec 2015 but there was no intercourse involved I just fingered her and she gave me a handjob. I realized I had precum in my fingers but it didnt strike me as we were active. I fingered her with precum acidentally. So now my gf is highly worried that she might get pregnant. She had a last period on the 9th of dec and this activity took place on the 13th. Recently my gf had bowel movements, spineache, cramps, chills during night, spotting and now after being worried about all this she is in a bad mood! We got a urine test done as well on the 31st of dec and it turned out negative. She is due to her next period on the 9th and today is 1st of jan 2016. Can somebody pls advise me regarding this asap. Thanks in advance!
January 2, 2016 - 9:37pmThis Comment
Is there a chance of pregnancy when while I was doing hand job to my boyfriend while we're standing and my legs were wide open and we unnoticed if there was a fluid went near my vaginal opening. I'm very worried. I'm already 4days late. I havr these symptoms like an urge to vomit and sore breasts. Really need your help. PLEASEEEEE. THANKS.
December 27, 2015 - 2:40amThis Comment
Hello me and my girlfriend were fooling around during her 6th day of period, and we were doing dry sex, i was naked and she was wearing her short jeans, underwear and pad, and im afraid that my sperms might get in there, but she told me that she didnt felt anything going in, so what is the percentage of pregnancy here?
December 22, 2015 - 5:59pmThank you so much for your help
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And i was only rubbed outside of her jeans
December 22, 2015 - 6:02pmThis Comment
Hi. Can a drop of fluid from ejaculation can make a woman pregnant? I was doing hand job to my boyfriend. We're both naked. I don't know if there was a drop spilled near ny vagina but we're standing with my legs open. PLEASE HELP. coz I haven't got my period yet. PLEASE REPLY. THANK YOU SO MUCH.
December 21, 2015 - 8:57amThis Comment
Hi Susan. My gf and I were dry humping the other day. I was only in underwear and she was also in panties only. We humped for a while. She reached orgasm and I ejacuated. After the ejacuation I continued humping for a moment. Is there any risk of pregnancy?
December 20, 2015 - 4:15amThis Comment
Hi Susan, me and my girlfriend have been doing sexual behaviors, but my penis never penetrated her. I fingred her with maybe precum. Would she get pregnant with this?
December 18, 2015 - 11:01amThis Comment
-anonymous-
December 18, 2015 - 8:54ammy gf is irregular in her monthly period , as i read , dry humping can't cause pregnancy but i am confused because my gf have a symptoms of being pregnant , i am naked while she was on her pants and underwear and i ejaculated to her pants , some semen went to her pants in the part of her , her monthly period is now almost 2weeks deleyd compare to last month (she is irreg) how can i know if she isn't pregnant. pls reply. thanks. im just confused
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