Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hi Susan,
I only did dry humping and oral but I am feeling that after that I have started gaining little weight. can you tell me what can be the reason, or its a myth that girls gain weight after making love.
November 19, 2015 - 9:41amThis Comment
I and my boyfriend are virgins but yesterday we touched out genitals skin to skin. Am not sure if he touched my vagina and but we rubbed. He did not penetrate me and most surely did not ejaculate. But i have read so much about pre cum and it containing sperm am really scared that if the semen did remain out side my vagina can it travel and make me pregnant. Am more scared as i was ovulating. Can i get pregnant without penetration?
October 25, 2015 - 5:11pmThis Comment
Hallo,
Yesterday me and my girl friend were dry humping. We were fully clothed. I did ejaculate and found a wet spot on her clothing of my semen. we are not sure whether it has gone inside her underwear and her genitals. are we in a risk of pregnancy?
October 24, 2015 - 2:18amThis Comment
Me & my gf had dry humping last week.. I was wearing jeans & she was wearing panty & trousers only.. She forgot the date of her period but may be she was supposed to have her period at that time.. After that day, she had bleeding so she thought may be period had started but after that her bleeding was stopped.. She had no more bleeding until yesterday.. When we were dry humping she had again bleeding & till night it was bleeding like period.. But again her bleeding stopped.. So she is really worried why is this happening? Is this bcz of dry humping? She won't be pregnant right? As we had lower cloths on.. & she is scared to visit a dr. can the dr und that she had makeout & dry humping?? Please help...nd before few months dr found she had cyst in her ovary nd we both r 18+
October 15, 2015 - 11:41pmThis Comment
I am a virgin my bf and I were messing around ,I'm on birth control for my cycle but I had on boy shorts and he had on boxers and he was poking around, I noticed his boxers were wet from ore ejaculation , is there a possibility of pregnancy, this happened September 3, and I got a period around the 20th of September but Google says you can be pregnant and still have a period
October 15, 2015 - 2:22pmPlease help, I'm 19 years old and very scared
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Hi susan. Me & bf made out with no clothes on. He was rubbing his penis out my vagina .. he was out and didnt enter it. He pre ejaculate no ejaculation happened. I got my period twice after this , but this month i didnt. I dont knw whether someone can get his period and pregnant ? As i heard this before. Pls tell me if there is any risk. Thanks
October 2, 2015 - 9:11amThis Comment
I think that the writers of this informative article are very helpful. It baffles me how many people have seemed to disregard the clear information and still ask the same pregnancy questions repeatedly. Well, I applaud your patience with all these same "we had clothes on, are we pregnant" questions. It looks like the fear is so real, that maybe some would feel more at peace reevaluating their sexual choices & partners. Anyway, I found this site through a Google search. Again, I applaud the writers for their time, openness and honesty.
October 2, 2015 - 6:21amHave a great day.
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Hi
September 30, 2015 - 8:18amMy boyfriend was just rubbing his penis over my vagina. And before ejaculating he moved away. So is there any risk of me getting pregnant?
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there was patch on my innerwear.Probably her secretions.Not a red alert is it?
September 30, 2015 - 6:07amThis Comment
i was rubbing my girlfriends vagina with my underwear on.I didn't enter her.Was only rubbing her(humping).i didn't ejaculate either.She had her orgasm and we stopped.is it possible for her to get pregnant?
September 30, 2015 - 5:57amThis Comment