Our lives are full of so many things, making it very easy to get sucked into pessimistic attitudes and negative thinking. When this happens, negative energy gets deposited into our minds and it affects various areas of our lives, such as relationships. Attitude and focus are two very important aspects of the human mind; we have total control over our emotions – negative (or positive) energy begets negative (or positive) emotions. If we learn to become more positive, our relationships can flourish by reigniting the old flame and sustaining the romance. Below are four ways you can bring positive energy into your relationship:
Do things together
Some couples complain of feeling “lonely” in their marriages or relationships, yet they rarely do things together with their spouses. Look for ways in which you can enjoy each other’s company, and watch as your passion for each other grows. There are quite a number of exciting activities which you can do together, but here are some excellent ideas to get you started:
- Exercise together: Exercises help you feel better mentally and physically. It boosts the body’s energy levels and brings clarity to your mind.
- Go for a romantic getaway: travelling and spending time together in a different environment keeps the relationship interesting and couples can also invest in each other more.
- Play computer games or board games together and place bets, for instance loser cooks dinner for the winner or performs full body massage on him/her.
- Dance together: dancing can be a great way of getting intimate.
Spice up your Sex Life
The same sexual routine can make your sex life and relationship boring. One way of spicing up your sex life is by exploring other parts of your spouse’s body that gets their blood rushing, other than the primary sex organs. These could be at the back of the knee, the shoulders, the navel, or the toes. Think about the parts of your body that you would also like your partner to attend to and let them know. Gently kiss, nibble or caress these parts, spending enough time on each new area you have discovered. You might be surprised by how much pleasure these often overlooked body parts can generate.
Another good way of spicing up your sex life is by role playing each other fantasies in the bedroom. Choose your role play costumes based on your significant other’s fantasies and give them a pleasant surprise every now and then.
Focus on the Good
Everyone has their own insecurities. These may emerge from our childhood experiences, how we view our physical bodies or the pressures associated with our day-to-day lifestyles. As our insecurities grow, they can become contagious and spread to those that are closest to us. Nothing dilutes passion more than insecurity. Hence, it is very important to compliment your partner every day, but do not make it a boring routine. Observe their strong points, accomplishments and efforts, give genuine compliments and be grateful for them.
Act like you just Started Dating
When couples start dating, they are so attracted to each other and would do anything just to spend time together. Think about what you used to do when you first met and started dating: for example, what perfume/cologne did you use to wear? Were you working out? What clothes did you use to wear? Be that person that you spouse fell in love in the good old days.
Also, re-explore the sensual and sentimental things that define your love story: visit the place you first met, where you had your first date or where you had your honeymoon. Ask your spouse what attracted him/her to you when you first set your eyes on them. Talk to each other and reminisce together.
Take it one day at a time and remember that for the relationship to work, both partners ought to be committed. Take time to talk and find out what makes both of you happy. Proper communication can bring joy, love and happiness back into your relationship.