What really happens at Bachelor and Bachelorette parties
I went to a fun bridal shower today but unfortunately cannot make the bachelorette party tonight due to other commitments.
It's going to be a fun time, with a dinner at a nice restaurant and an evening spent line-dancing at a country bar. I'm not into country music and can't line dance to save my life, which is probably what would make it fun! Those line dancers are really into their thing, so seeing a bunch of women screwing up every dance move might make for some fun amusement!
Coincidentally, I also just read an article about what really goes on at many bachelor and bachelorette parties and it's anything from a fun night with girlfriends for the bride I saw today, or something a lot, well, different.
In a recent Cosmo article called Confessions of a Bachelor Party Stripper, the stripper said that about 30% of the grooms are willing to engage in sexual activity with the stripper (s), and about 70% are unwilling. It also seems like the best man and other groomsmen are the instigators - trying to get the guy to have sex as his last "hurrah" before settling down to a life of (supposed) fidelity. One third of them are willing to engage in sex? That seems extraordinarily high. But a professional dancer would know more than me.
Of course, any man who is willing to have sex with a stripper for money, weeks before his wedding may not exactly plan on lifetime of monogamy with his wife.
Even without sex, the average stripper show at a bachelor party involves a lot of sexual activity, usually between two female strippers, with the men watching and cheering them on.
The groom usually gets a lap dance by a topless or naked dancer and he is usually shirtless. Most men at these parties do not consider this to be of a real sexual nature. The other men are then invited to get a topless lap dance and many accept, whether they are married or single.
Bachelorette parties are not always innocent affairs either. While many are simply a bunch of girlfriends like my friend, celebrating a fun night out with some good food and wine, and very dubious attempts at dancing (!), others employ male strippers who strip completely and some kinds of sexual activity occasionally takes place.
And not all guys go for sex. Many guys go to a sports bar or a ball game and enjoy an all-guy barbecue afterward, throwing back some beers and reminiscence about the good all single days that most are secretly pretty happy to say goodbye to!
Often times, news of these parties gets back to the other almost-wed and can cause havoc. Feelings of betrayal and disappointment occur and at it's worst, it's not unknown for a wedding to be canceled, especially when rumors abound and pictures surface on social networking sites or on email.
But this isn't always the case. Sometimes, both parties accept that "what happens at the party, stays at the party" and indulge in whatever activities they choose. It's considered a right of passage - a last opportunity to engage in activity that will then be rebuked and ended on the day of the wedding.
Tell Us
Did one of these parties negatively affect you or someone you know? Or do you agree with the premise that although they may be wild and of a sexual nature - it's a right of passage that every soon-to-be-married should enjoy without fear of getting into trouble?
Would you be ok with your partner engaging in one of these kinds of parties?
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I think it is a great thing that there are Bachelor and Bachelorette parties just to have the last big night with your friends as a single individual. I had one myself, with a male stripper, which was entertaining but completely safe.
If my soon-to-be husband had sex prior to our wedding, I would not marry him. Entertainment is ok, but when it turns into more, than that is an issue. I guess to each his own.