Divorce Resource Advocate Linda Kazares discusses ways to prevent a messy divorce.
Nobody wants to have an ugly divorce, maybe some people do, maybe that’s their way of getting some of their anger out.
But let me talk a little bit about how to avoid an ugly divorce. One is do your research. Make sure you’ve got all the background together.
If you and your spouse have already decided mutually that you know you need to get divorced, often people don’t. Sometimes the process is started up by one spouse and the other spouse finds out when the papers show up at the front door.
But if you can start off conversation where you both know you need to get divorced, you can be civil about it and kind of try to set the guidelines for each other.
Decide that the children aren’t going to become a tool in the middle of this divorce. Decide that money is between you and your spouse. It’s not a conversation to have in front of the children, young children or older children, it’s private. It’s between the two of you.
Talk about money all of a sudden becomes too important to the children and that just sets them off in a wrong direction for the rest of their lives.
Making sure you don’t have an ugly divorce will also help your children have happier divorces when they grow up because they can see how the two of you have communicated and even though you decided to end your marriage there are better ways to end a relationship than with a lot of consternation and a lot of ugliness.
About Linda Kazares:
She is the author of several marketing books and was a consultant to Fortune 500 technology companies. During her 35+ years as an entrepreneur, she has been divorced twice, produced of 50 conferences and has been married for 13 years happily for a third and final time. She has created the ConnectedIn Divorce Resource website to make available qualified information and education for individuals considering, in the process of or after divorce.