Divorce Resource Advocate Linda Kazares offers advice to women who are considering divorce but are unsure about returning to work.
I think one of the toughest things for woman in particular when they get divorced is very often they have been a stay-at-home mom or their career or work life has never really developed into a career that would really enable them to pay the bills for a family.
While there are certain things like spousal maintenance that she may be able to rely on for a while it isn’t a long-term revenue stream.
So some of the advice I give women is start to look at yourself as an individual. You are not somebody who is working in an office all your life and that’s all you can do.
Find out if it’s more important for you to develop a career and ways to do that are, in particular, first of all go back to school if you have to. There are online resources for certain types of work opportunities. That way you don’t have to leave the house, you’ll be around for the children.
Other opportunities are canvass your friends. Ask them if they know of some jobs out there that will lead you toward a career goal and I think that that’s an important word.
You have to have a goal. If you have been working and you have been in the same role for years and years and years you hadn’t really had a goal. You’ve had a job. You are a mother. You were taking care of children and this is just a second revenue stream, income stream for you.
Well decide if you want a career and decide if you want to improve your opportunities by getting the education, by asking around.
And once you have established your goal, plot out what the best way is to get there and it may not be that job, it may not be the first job that you get.
It may be that you have to work a way up to that. I know it’s the old story, you have to work your way up the ladder but it works. It works. It’s the same now as it always was.
About Linda Kazares:
She is the author of several marketing books and was a consultant to Fortune 500 technology companies. During her 35+ years as an entrepreneur, she has been divorced twice, produced of 50 conferences and has been married for 13 years happily for a third and final time. She has created the ConnectedIn Divorce Resource website to make available qualified information and education for individuals considering, in the process of or after divorce.