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Following Your Dreams Can Be Confusing

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It seems like it should be simple. To follow your dreams means that you should figure out what it is you really want to do and then go for it, with gusto. Only for so many of us, this is far easier said than done.

First of all, many of us don't really know what our dreams are, or if we do, they're not entirely realistic. Dreaming of sailing around the world and never having a full time or even part time job is one thing but how many people would be able to pull that off without a trust fund, a lotto win, or a ridiculous inheritance?

Sitting in his accountant's chair, crunching numbers all day, every day, for years, the accountant may secretly dream of becoming a stand up comedian. He writes jokes in his evening hours, chuckling and trying them out on friends and family over the holidays. But if he were to follow that particular dream, he feels, he may actually end up without any money left, his past labors and future security gone forever.

So perhaps the challenge is to realize there's a fine line between following our real dreams and tempering them somewhat to be able to live responsibly in the world. Of course there are those shooting star people who throw caution to the wind and "just go for it," never looking back, all their eggs in one basket.

Maybe that's why shows like "American Idol" are so popular; we see a microcosm of what it's like to try and go for your dreams without hesitation, sometimes falling on your face, sometimes reaching incredible heights.

What I have come to appreciate is the sense that while we may not all get to live out our dreams, every person we meet actually has them. I understand the poignant beauty of the secretary who used to paint as a college student, or the doctor who was a modern dancer, the janitor who wanted to be a doctor or the cleaning woman who is fluent in seven languages and almost worked for the U.N. These dreams may have faded, but inside all of us there is still that place of knowing them and, in knowing them, knowing the core of one's deepest self.

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Hi Sharon!

Thanks for you insight! I want you as MY MENTOR!!!! I want to follow my dreams but am continually crushed under the weight of financial responsibility from now until the foreseeable future. My dream is to write full time and make the same living I do as a special education teacher. I have been so happy writing - it's what fuels me and brings me back to myself. But so far I can't see a way in to doing it full time. Like many of us, it can be something I accept and am fine with some days, and something that makes me very sad on others.

You sound extremely wise and bold!

Thanks for your comment....


February 6, 2011 - 2:48pm

Thank you for such a thoughtful and well-written article. I just wanted to add this--that in my experience, I have found that living boldly has made my life richer and more rewarding.

Some of us, from time to time, will get fooled by our perception that our dream is not practical. While it can be unsettling to push the envelope--having done so is incredibly rewarding. The experience of doing so not only enrichens our life but empowers us on to new and sometimes, different challenges...for it is only when we step out and take risks that we learn what we are capable of. And failure often leads to success.

February 2, 2011 - 7:52am
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