Kim explains why her sexual medicine physician ask to perform a clitoral ultrasound and shares how this process was executed.
I was back seeing Dr. Goldstein on a regular basis. I’m no longer with my husband and I am not sexually active and Dr. Goldstein raises a question about whether or not the blood flow to my clitoris, in my clitoral area is adequate, because I am not having sex so we’re really not sure if all of these efforts are to a positive end. So I am wondering, as probably all of you are, “What does that look like?” And he said he would like to perform an ultrasound, which I didn’t even know you could do, on the clitoris, which is apparently quite a long area and it’s kind of shaped like a wishbone and if you stretch it out I think it’s probably as long as a penis, I didn’t know any of this, I don’t know why I would but I never did and it was interesting.
And so I just was to lie still and Dr. Goldstein performed an ultrasound and said that often times, just as is the case with men where they have erectile dysfunction, there can be constraints on blood flow and it can indicate plaque. It can indicate other things that we all should be concerned with, especially because women have such a high incidence of heart disease, and I was already prescribed a statin based on some cholesterol issues that Dr. Goldstein picked up that nobody else picked up.
So, it was pretty remarkable and timely. So I went through this ultrasound and the steady state blood flow looked pretty good and then Dr. Goldstein said that they would like me to use a sex toy, which I’ve never used, for whatever reason this isn’t something my girlfriends and I chatted about, and he said that he and his assistant would leave the room and the nurse would give me the sex toy. I was to achieve an orgasm and basically they would come in and do another ultrasound and look at blood flow, which should be far greater and see if there’s any areas where it would be constrained.
Now I am taking a deep breath. He’d actually ask me to do this twice prior to and I just couldn’t bring myself to do it, but my trust with him was at such a level that I thought, “I am ready. I am ready to do this,” and so he left the room and I overheard him as he left the room saying that this would probably take about five minutes, which shocked the heck out of me that I could have an orgasm with this device in five minutes or less.
So now I am actually enthused about this whole thing. The nurse hands me a device and it’s called the Hitachi Magic Wand who I thought Hitachi made other electronic devices, I didn’t know anything about this, and it looks like a space needle, kind of like the Seattle Space Needle so it’s a conical thing with a big ball on the top.
And I looked at it and the nurse handed it to me and she started to walk out the room and in all candor I said, “I don’t know about you women but that will not fit,” and that’s when I had the lecture from the very attractive, 26-year-old nurse that it wasn’t to be inserted, that it was to be used externally. So I felt pretty ridiculous.
So she left the room and before she left I said, “You need to show me exactly where this is going to go,” and she said, “Just put it externally right on your clitoral area; don’t put it on high speed or you’ll be spinning from the ceiling fan here because this thing is very powerful”. So she showed me what to do. She left the room, and I am pretty sure it was about two minutes and forty five seconds till I was laughing hysterically yelling for Dr. Goldstein to come back in the room and espousing to everyone that that was the best sex I never had or ever had, and I think they gave me the Hitachi Magic Wand.
The reason that this is so important to me and, I am making light of it but it’s a very serious matter, is if you are not sexually active and you’re not getting, you’re not working out your vaginal area, things will go wrong, just like with the rest of your body when you have things atrophy. So if you don’t had adequate blood flow or if you are not behaving in a way that allows you to have an orgasm however you induce that, it just doesn’t seem healthy to me. It doesn’t make sense to me that we would just let this area of our bodies go without doing something about it.