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Sexual Health Problem: How Did You Find Help?

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Kim describes how she located help to treat her sexual health condition after suffering for years without support and then shares what she has learned.

I recently had relocated to the San Diego area and there was a newspaper article and it just seemed almost like divine intervention. There was this article that talked about the first sexual medicine clinic of its kind in San Diego. First clinic of its kind in the country and I recognized Dr. Goldstein’s name because I knew of him when I lived in the Massachusetts are and I called his office and think I was patient one or two, and made an appointment to come in immediately, not really knowing what precisely was wrong with me, but knowing that my sex life when existent, was horrible, and that that just didn’t seem right to me.

So I came in to see Dr. Goldstein and the first thing he did was have me fill out a series of psychological tests, which I thought was fascinating and I knew that he had a sex therapist on staff. So I thought, “Well this makes sense to me that he would get a read on kind of my happiness scale, how optimistic was I or how pessimistic,” and I went through the series of tests and then there was a physical exam that should have been daunting because there I was with my legs spread apart with all my stuff on a big flat screen TV and it was not intimidating at all.

Dr. Goldstein showed me anatomically things that I should have seen, that would have indicated that there was something wrong with my blood levels, with my basic hormone levels. Without trying to gross anyone out and just by way of example, I actually had half of a lip or half of a labia and the other half of this lip had completely been resorbed right back into the skin.

So if I had looked with a mirror I would have seen that but it’s not something that we were ever taught to do or told to do or encouraged to do, and that was the beginning.

He showed me all kinds of signs internally of where I should or shouldn’t see wrinkles, he has got all kinds of terminology and he says them to you in a respectable way, but he just explains what is not right with the anatomy and the physiology of the situation.

And then we went through a series of tests where my blood work was taken and sent to a lab, a series of tests to determine my sensitivity to hot, to cold, to vibration and he, it was interesting, he would test my finger first to get a baseline of what an extremity should feel and then do this vaginally and it just made sense, and it was done so tastefully and so respectfully that it was not at all embarrassing or intimidating. In fact it was fascinating and I really wanted to know more.

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EmpowHER Guest

Now its very easy to contact with doctor .Please visit http://www.dialurdoctor.com

July 12, 2011 - 6:49am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

We cannot in good conscience recommend the link www.dialurdoctor.com. We found it to be unhelpful. A doctor needs to see you in person to evaluate pudendal nerve damage and damage to the nerves in the cervix and uterus. http://pudendalhope.org/ or http://www.tipna.org/info/doctors/index.htm.

January 13, 2012 - 11:17pm
EmpowHER Guest

My first step in finding help was to get away from gynecologist except one who was in his 70s and who kept up with current research who acted as a consultant. And another one who gave numbing injects to the cervix and for a short period of time, I felt no pain. I had to go to find help with researchers in neurobiology and womens sexuality. I had to go outside gynecology because gynecologist treat the female reproductive organs and not the neurobiology; thus gynecological surgeries create nerve damage to sex organs as the cervix/uterus, vagina and vulva. Gynecologist do not study the sexology of women or the science of orgasm as Dr. Beverly Whipple. Being a researcher, I found out from a neurobiologist and gynecologist that my problem was nerve damage of the pudendal and hypogastric nerve from a deep LEEP conization. I suspected this to be the case when only neuropathic pain medication and antiseziure medication were the only medications that would turn down the volume of the pain. The pain never ends. I also found out that many women who have orgasms when their cervix are bumped because of their innervation and when the cervix is removed these women have pain that prevents penetration, sometimes called vulvodynia in the gynecological world. I did go to a psychiatrist that confirmed that I had pelvic pain. Nerves in the cervix are directly connected to the brain stem, Dr. Karen Berkley, Neuroscientist. So I am offended by any psychological evaluation that any gynecologist gives to me. I have a pain problem from nerve inflammation in the cervix from the LEEP and a numb clitoris all caused by cutting the pudendal nerve. Gynecologist need to accept this is pain and not in "women's heads." Also, in a gynecological journal in the 1870s, I read where a gynecologist said that it was a horrible thing to amputate the cervix of a woman. I realize gynecologist like most MDs are not researchers, as with professional degrees MDs learn in an apprenticeship style which limits their knowledge to what their teacher knows before practicing; however, PhDs are researchers, and all research neurobiologists are PhDs, who must create new knowledge in the field to earn a PhD.

October 7, 2010 - 2:13am
(reply to Anonymous)

Cutting the pudendal nerve during a LEEP/cone would be an error and is not normally done during these procedures.

October 7, 2010 - 6:21am
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Anonymous (reply to Cary Cook BSN RN)

I also have nerve damage of the cervix and require para-cervical nerve blocks as well as chronic pain treatment as a result of the LEEP. Thanks for the link.

January 13, 2012 - 9:33am
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