Kim describes how she located help to treat her sexual health condition after suffering for years without support and then shares what she has learned.
I recently had relocated to the San Diego area and there was a newspaper article and it just seemed almost like divine intervention. There was this article that talked about the first sexual medicine clinic of its kind in San Diego. First clinic of its kind in the country and I recognized Dr. Goldstein’s name because I knew of him when I lived in the Massachusetts are and I called his office and think I was patient one or two, and made an appointment to come in immediately, not really knowing what precisely was wrong with me, but knowing that my sex life when existent, was horrible, and that that just didn’t seem right to me.
So I came in to see Dr. Goldstein and the first thing he did was have me fill out a series of psychological tests, which I thought was fascinating and I knew that he had a sex therapist on staff. So I thought, “Well this makes sense to me that he would get a read on kind of my happiness scale, how optimistic was I or how pessimistic,” and I went through the series of tests and then there was a physical exam that should have been daunting because there I was with my legs spread apart with all my stuff on a big flat screen TV and it was not intimidating at all.
Dr. Goldstein showed me anatomically things that I should have seen, that would have indicated that there was something wrong with my blood levels, with my basic hormone levels. Without trying to gross anyone out and just by way of example, I actually had half of a lip or half of a labia and the other half of this lip had completely been resorbed right back into the skin.
So if I had looked with a mirror I would have seen that but it’s not something that we were ever taught to do or told to do or encouraged to do, and that was the beginning.
He showed me all kinds of signs internally of where I should or shouldn’t see wrinkles, he has got all kinds of terminology and he says them to you in a respectable way, but he just explains what is not right with the anatomy and the physiology of the situation.
And then we went through a series of tests where my blood work was taken and sent to a lab, a series of tests to determine my sensitivity to hot, to cold, to vibration and he, it was interesting, he would test my finger first to get a baseline of what an extremity should feel and then do this vaginally and it just made sense, and it was done so tastefully and so respectfully that it was not at all embarrassing or intimidating. In fact it was fascinating and I really wanted to know more.