Fibromyalgia and Sex

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• Try a new position. Try the position where both partners are standing. Another position which may be favorable to women suffering from FMS is when a woman leans on furniture high enough to comfortably support her and the man enters from behind. Be creative.

• Talk to your doctor about your medications and if there are alternative medications which do not deplete your libido. Also ask your doctor if you can take a "drug holiday."

The FMA said this is when you ʺsuspend use of your medication for a weekend, giving your libido enough time to recover so that you and your partner can make love. Then on Monday you can resume your prescription.ʺ It is important to secure your doctor’s permission before you take a drug holiday.


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Reviewed March 6, 2012
by Michele Blacksberg RN
Edited by Jody Smith

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EmpowHER Guest

I too was hoping for some helpful information but alas it is not here. This subject has become a serious issue between me and my husband of 20 years. While I have only been diagnosed with FMS for about 3 years, I believe I may have been suffering with it for much longer. Thank you to the person who commented on March 7th with the website. I look forward to seeing what she has to say.

May 9, 2012 - 9:30pm
EmpowHER Guest

I agree with the comments here! For one, standing when you have fibro is not enjoyable to begin with. Taking a holiday from the meds that I am on would cause serious withdrawal which would make me not want to be touched even more and would make it so I couldnt sleep so I would be exhausted. I was looking forward to this being helpful because this is a serious problem in my relationship but it wasnt. Luckily I have a very understanding partner that deals with the fact that I just cant at this time and havent for almost 2 years :(

April 18, 2012 - 11:54am
EmpowHER Guest

Making love stood up - ermmmmmmmmmmm is that really possible when your hips are playing up ?? Which idiot wrote this ?? They need a good talking to !!!!

March 9, 2012 - 11:33am
EmpowHER Guest

If you are looking for more info on the subject you should check out . It has tons of well written articles.

March 7, 2012 - 7:33am
EmpowHER Guest

Who wrote this? The information could not have come from the NFA! Obviously someone who is not on the long list of medications that a person with Fibro has to take. I have Fibro/CFS, and if I took a "drug holiday", it would we an absolute nightmare for my fiance! I would be in so much pain and I would be going through the most intense flare....seriously? A drug holiday??

It would be nice to actually get some advice on these topics that us Fibromites take very seriously from people who have been there, first hand and can explain it from an experienced point of view.

Also, any doctor who is experienced with Fibro patients would know better than to tell them to go off their meds for a few days here and there. That is so hard on the system for us. We can't handle the withdrawl over and over, it sets off flares.

I don't know who's libido can just "come back to normal" after being off meds for a few days...can you please find real doctors or people with experience to write advice for issues such as these?

March 6, 2012 - 8:50pm
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