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Splitting the Bill: Who Pays for the Modern Wedding?

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Once upon a time, the financial strain of a wedding and all that it entailed was the sole responsibility of the parents of the bride.

Today, the extravagant nature of the event has shifted the burden of payment from the parents to the young couple.

The average wedding in the United States costs $25,200 according to Costofwedding.com. This number is greatly affected by extreme budgets as the website states that most couples still spend less than $10,000.

Theknot.com suggests that before wedding shopping begins, every person contributing to the wedding should sit down and work up a total budget for the event. This talk should take place before anyone has a chance to fall in love with something expensive like a gown or a venue.

Even with this style of collaborating over the budget, there are still a few expenses that tend to fall on specific individuals.

The groom, for example has traditionally paid for the bouquet, license fees, the engagement ring, and a gift for his bride according to CNN.com. While the bouquet and licensing fees may now be added into the overall budget, the modern groom still typically buys the ring and a gift.

The average engagement ring costs between $2,500 and $4,100 according to Costofwedding.com. Choosing a non-traditional ring without a diamond can significantly lower this price and, of course, there are grooms who choose to spend far more than average.

Typically, the groom gives his bride a gift on their wedding day. Groomsgroove.com suggests that nostalgic, meaningful gifts, like a memento from a date or an item to be used on the honeymoon, is now as acceptable as the traditional piece of jewelry that used to be given.

Likewise, the bride is often still responsible for purchasing the groom’s wedding band and a gift for him to be given on the day of the event.

According to Forbes, the average wedding band for a groom costs over $500. Price ranges vary depending on the groom’s preferences and styles. The bride can spend as much or as little as she likes on the groom's wedding day gift.

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EmpowHER Guest

We are in same situation. Weddings are expensive and feel its only fair for us to pay for our wedding. Help and handouts are welcome, but it will take solid saving to fund it.

March 26, 2015 - 10:07am
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Great article! 

I think it's wonderful if either side (the parents) want to pay a little something but it's utter madness to expect family to pay for a wedding, especially when half the marriages are over in several years! The bridal family paid for a wedding as part of the patriarchal dowry system - that system is thankfully no longer in place.  

Especially now as people are waiting to get married, they have the money to spend. And if someone wants a $25,000 wedding, they should pay for it themselves! 



March 16, 2015 - 3:56pm
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